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NC: Durham City Council votes unanimously for marriage equality resolution

by: Pam Spaulding

Mon Aug 17, 2009 at 23:14:11 PM EDT


I am very proud of my hometown tonight after attending the Durham (NC) City Council meeting where a resolution supporting civil marriage equality for same-sex couples was passed unanimously. Mayor Bill Bell and council members affirmed marriage equality. While NC does not allow gay and lesbian couples to marry, it is heartening to have the support of the Bull City (our state legislature has also turned away, for the sixth time, a state marriage amendment).

When I entered the council chambers to sign up to speak (around 6:20, with the meeting to begin at 7PM), it was already filling up. I gave a hug to Mayor Bell, who has known me since I was a little p-a-m. He apparently keeps up with the "trouble" I get into on the Blend and in The Durham News. I was also greeted and hugged by Mike Woodard, who frequently marches in the Pride Parade with the allies and "family" Old West Durham peeps (even though neither of us live in the neighborhood these days).

I sat down in the second row. After several proclamations and bits of business it came to the main agenda items of the night. It was clear this was a big meeting for two reasons -- the resolution and a matter concerning the city's recycling vendor contract. I'm sorry to say that I was not up to date on the latter issue, but after an excruciating hour of debate that shed little light (at least to me) on what the outcome was, it was time for the resolution.

The council decided to move on the issue, meaning no debate was needed. All but one of those who signed up to speak was in favor of the equality resolution. One woman in my row (well-known local homophobe and failed political candidate Victoria Peterson) jumped to her feet to object (about 4:30 in) "Excuse me, I'd like to speak." Mayor Bell firmly, but politely told her "I'm running the meeting" and said they were ready to move the item and vote. And they did -- and there was a standing ovation (4:48).

Notice the racial divide -- who was standing and who remained seated. It's too bad that I was unable to get up to speak. That's for another day...I'll take this opportunity to announce that I've been asked to be the keynote speaker at NC Pride this year. The parade, which weaves in OWD next to Duke's East Campus, ends with the keynote and other guests. It will be a good opportunity to celebrate the victories -- and address this sad divide in understanding.

The full resolution is below the fold.

Pam Spaulding :: NC: Durham City Council votes unanimously for marriage equality resolution

The full text:

WHEREAS, the U.S. Supreme Court has recognized civil marriage as one of the basic civil rights fundamental to our very existence and survival and one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness; and

WHEREAS, the City Council of the City of Durham has adopted and reaffirmed a policy of promoting equal rights and opportunities for employees of Durham City Government without regard to  race, religion, age, sex, handicap, national origin, color, marital status, personal appearance, sexual orientation, family responsibilities, matriculation, political affiliation or belief;  and

WHEREAS, in 2002, the City Council of the City of Durham formally extended health care benefits to same sex domestic partners of City employees and their legal dependents due in part to the fact that same sex marriages are not legally recognized in North Carolina; and

WHEREAS, the continued refusal to legally recognize same sex marriages denies individuals involved in same sex relationships the important legal benefits, rights and responsibilities of civil marriage that are available to heterosexual couples; and

WHEREAS, the continued refusal to deny same sex partners the ability to enjoy the benefits, rights and responsibilities of a legally recognized civil marriage union is tantamount to the denial of these benefits, rights and responsibilities on the basis of sexual orientation; and  

WHEREAS, the denial of the rights and responsibilities of civil marriage on the basis of sexual orientation is inconsistent with the City Council's commitment to equal rights and opportunities for its employees without regard to sexual orientation.

THEREFORE, BE IT RESOLVED BY THE CITY COUNCIL OF THE CITY OF DURHAM:

       Section 1.  The City Council of the City of Durham endorses and supports the rights of same-sex couples to share fully and equally in the rights, responsibilities and commitments of civil marriage.

       Section 2.   This resolution shall be effective on and after its passage.

Thank you Mayor Bell and the members of the Durham City Council for affirming that separate is not equal and that the Bull City supports diversity.

William V. "Mayor Bill Bell
Mayor
Phone: (919) 560-4333 ext. 10269
Bill.Bell@durhamnc.gov

Mayor Pro Tem
Cora Cole-McFadden
City Council Member (Ward 1)
Phone: (919) 560-4396 ext. 10277
Cora.Cole-McFadden@durhamnc.gov

Farad Ali
City Council Member (At-Large)
Phone: 560-4396, ext. 10273
E-mail: farad.ali@durhamnc.gov

Eugene A. Brown
City Council member (At-Large)
Phone: (919) 688-9314
Eugene.Brown@durhamnc.gov

Diane Catotti
City Council member (At-Large)
Phone: (919) 560-4396 ext. 10278
diane.catotti@durhamnc.gov

Howard Clement, III
City Council member (Ward 2)
Phone: (919) 560-4396, ext. 10272
Howard.Clement@durhamnc.gov

Mike Woodard
City Council Member (Ward 3)
Phone: (919) 560-4396 ext. 10276
Email: mike.woodard@durhamnc.gov

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Awesome
I wish you could have spoken too, Pam, you would have been great. I know you would have made lots and lots of critical points - points which many in the crowd probably needed to hear. But the outcome of the city's action is uplifting and affirming. Congrats.

Close the GayTM. Only give to candidates who have actually done something other than make promises - most are just pandering for our cash.

Congratulations to Durham, and for Pam at Pride
nice homecoming present

"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


That's great!
I was a little worried when I e-mailed one of the council members because I didn't want to feel like an outside force butting in, and instead tried to come across as a neighbor with a vested interest in the Bull City.  I didn't contact them all, but since I live close to one of their wards I thought it not inappropriate to contact him.

Here is my e-mail:


To my Neighbor in support of Marriage Equality

Dear Mr. Woodard,

I write you as a long time neighbor to the Bull City asking you to continue Durham's tradition of a little southern hospitality in welcoming all their neighbors .  I went to undergrad at NCSU and found Durham to be a wonderful neighbor.  I spent time & money at Southpoint & elsewhere in Durham while living in Raleigh.

After college I was employed by the Carrboro Plaza Veterinary Clinic and now live in Chapel Hill, but not so far (less than 2 miles) away from Ward 3.  And it is not uncommon to find me visiting the Carolina Theatre, or shopping on Ninth Street, or hoping on the Amtrak in Durham, or catching a movie at Northgate, or visiting & speaking at WUNC's radio station, dropping by Target, or standing outside a polling site during election season at NCCU's campus, or polling sites downtown, or up north at a school, or elsewhere at a library holding up signs & wearing buttons for national, statewide, & yes local would be civil servants.

Durham has always been a hospitable neighbor whom I love to visit, and who I feel a connection to as a long time resident of the triangle area, and I hope that Durham can keep up this welcoming hospitable tradition in supporting marriage equality as your neighbors such as Carrboro & Chapel Hill have done.  I would appreciate any thoughts you could share on the issue.

Your neighbor,

Jake Gellar-Goad

The emphasis there wasn't in the original e-mail, but I was just trying to point out that he had cover if he felt he needed it since other triangle area cities were already doing the same thing.

and here was his response (I guess I lucked up in contacting someone who was already very much on our side):


mike.woodard@durhamnc.gov
to me

show details 10:08 PM (1 hour ago)

Reply

Follow up message
Thank you for writing. I will be supporting this.

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
Mike Woodard
Durham City Council
mike.woodard@durhamnc.gov
919.560.4396, x276




Absolutely Fabulous! Congratulations!!!!!
I am so impressed with this and coming from Durham NC even more so.  Pam I am not sure who authored the resolution but it nearly brought me to tears.

You know, this is just another nugget to support my and others feeling that the 'war' has already been won but that there will remain many more 'battles'.  This is another battle won.  Pam, thanks for being a witness and shaker and mover to help make this happen in Durham and to all of those here on the Blend who are doing the same in their own communities and countries.

BRAVO and BRAVO and a huge thanks to all of our straight friends who helped make this happen as well!

xoxo

vanhattan


YAAAYYY!!!
This is fantastic!  And congrats on being asked to be the keynote speaker at pride!

isn't the keynote somewhere between e-sharp and f-minor? ;)

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Hooray!

I admit to knowing nothing about Durham, but it seems to me that the vote being unanimously in favor is as big a victory as winning at itself.

Congrats! And, also for the Pride invitation!

As for those who remained seated, someday "love will build a bridge."


Wonderful
Congrats Pam and all of the residents of Durham (once the home of Maura Hennessey)

I tell you Chica that no greater abomination exists than women denying their spirit of sisterhood and instead becoming the oppressor. -Rebeca, Universidad Complutense de Madrid

Keynote
Congratulations, Pam.

Durham has come a long way
Since I was at neighboring UNC Chapel Hill in the 1950's.  Congratulations Pam.  You played a large part in making this milestone happen.

Same-Sex Marriage is good for the economy.

Howard Clement Abstained?
As a point of clarification, Howard Clement seems to have abstained, correct?

no, he apparently approved
Mayor Bell opened and closet the vote so fast I think the long-serving councilman didn't hit the button in time.

[ Parent ]
Thanks.
My first thought was that maybe the lightbulb had burned out...all those budget cuts, lol. Anyway, not that important in the big scheme of things. Just wondered, 'cause I do that.

[ Parent ]
"Notice the racial divide -- who was standing and who remained seated."
Pam would you talk to us about this some more?
Why do you think this racial divide exists and what can we do about it?
It is very frustrating to me.

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