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Thursday This & That: Open Thread

by: Autumn Sandeen

Thu Oct 15, 2009 at 20:30:00 PM EDT



It's an open thread! Pleeeeease feel free to chat, blogwhore, and link-share in the comment thread... Autumn Sandeen

Bookworm BobBelow is what my cartoon sockpuppet Bookworm Bob & I have been looking at since Tuesday:

NOLA's Interracial couple denied marriage license in Tangipahoa Parish:

A Louisiana justice of the peace said he refused to issue a marriage license to an interracial couple out of concern for any children the couple might have.

'My main concern is for the children,' said Keith Bardwell, justice of the peace in Tangipahoa Parish. Keith Bardwell, justice of the peace in Tangipahoa Parish, says it is his experience that most interracial marriages do not last long.

...Bardwell told the Daily Star of Hammond that he was not a racist.

"I do ceremonies for black couples right here in my house," Bardwell said. "My main concern is for the children." ...

E-f*cking-gads! Has this justice of the peace never heard of Loving V. Virginia?

• The New York' House Backs Detainee Transfers:

The House of Representatives on Thursday voted to allow the Obama administration to bring foreign terrorism suspects from the Guantanamo Bay prison to the United States to face trial.

The 307 to 114 vote removes one of many roadblocks the administration faces as it tries to empty the internationally condemned prison by January...

Well. That's actually surprising, given how nobody seems to want to bring the Gitmo prisoners in to prisons in their districts.

• From Cynthia J. Telingator, MD and Kelly T. Woyewodzic, MD at Psychiatric Times comes Sexual Minority Identity Development; A Review of the Process and Effects:

Sexual identity development is a complex, multidimensional, and often fluid process. One must consider cognitive, social, emotional, cultural, and familial complexities among other aspects of the individual's experience to contextualize a narrative concerning sexual identity development.

Sexual minority youth is a term used to describe adolescents who are not exclusively heterosexual. Definitions and labels ascribed to sexual minority youth may not describe their sexual attractions, relationships, fantasies, or behaviors. It is important to understand an individual's personal experience as well as his or her self-identification without making assumptions.

The Internet, public discourse about "gay rights," Gay-Straight Alliances in the schools, and a growing visibility of gay and lesbian role models in the media have helped challenge mainstream notions of what is considered "normal" sexual development. The fluidity of adolescent sexual identity development is as complicated as any aspect of identity development. Adolescents in the 21st century are, in many parts of the world, growing up in a culture that embraces diversity in sexual expression in a manner foreign to their parents' generation. Despite the fact that sexual minority youth have greater access to resources that provide support than did previous generations, there continue to be schools, communities, and homes in which adolescents still experience rejection, bullying, ostracism, and violence because of their differences from mainstream society...

This is my recommended reading pick for this This & That diary.

The Minnesota Daily's Transgender Commission fights for better restroom access:

Many students take the ability to use the bathroom for granted, but for some it is a daily battle.

No Or Both Gender Male Female Restroom Sign - Gender Neutral Restroom Bathroom SignThe University of Minnesota Transgender Commission is attempting to raise awareness about restroom access on campus, not only for members of the transgender community, but for the disabled, chronically ill and anyone who is made uncomfortable by gender-specific public restrooms.

"There are so many reasons someone might just want to have a private space to use the restroom, and I don't think that's limited to trans-identified folks or gender-nonconforming folks, but really is a right that is for all of us," said Remy Corso, University of Minnesota Transgender Commission co-coordinator and transgender student.

The group has consulted disabled people who work with opposite sex caregivers, the chronically ill and diabetics who need to inject insulin that would prefer single-stall, gender-neutral restrooms.

...Shawyn Lee, the assistant director of the University of Minnesota GLBTA Programs Office, prefers gender-neutral restrooms...

Further in the article, Shawyn Lee indicates ze identifies as genderqueer.

Can I just say here I love my diverse community, and the work many folk like Shawyn Lee is doing?

San Diego News Network's 51% founders: Let's think outside of the box:

Forgive our tactless pun, but it's time to think outside the box. Check one, male or female. While easy for some, it's painful for others - when the choice between one extreme and the other doesn't fit a person's personal identity, or their body.

Some folks are born with the dilemma of indistinctness. Intersexuality is a medical reference applied to people who cannot be narrowly, biologically classified as male or female because they contain atypical combinations of physical features that relate to both male and female traits. Classifications of intersexuality include analysis of chromosomal differences, gonadal anomalies, genital ambiguity and more. These characteristics are congenital.

The most recent publicized case of defining an individual as more male or female when both traits are present is with the young South African championship runner, Caster Semenya. She may be a hermaphrodite, despite being raised as a woman and competing as a woman. Her case may cause the International Association of Athletics Federations to devise a definition of what determines male or female for the sake of classifying whether an athlete competes as male or female.

Classifications are no easy feat, within the United States, even our local and federal governments cannot agree. To date, there is no uniform, legal definition of what makes a person female or male, or more one than the other...

Another interesting read.

• Our Wiener Story Of The Day: 's Why Pregnant Women are Told To Avoid Certain Cheeses and Hot Dogs by Some Doctors:

Some doctors tell their patients not to eat cheese when they're pregnant, and women want to know why. It's because of the danger of contracting listeriosis, that's found in some cheeses.

Wiener WorldListeriosis is caused by a bacteria called "listeria monocytogenes." Most people don't even know they've contracted diarrhea from something they ate, but can't recall what it might be. It could be the cheese. The problem is when you're pregnant your immune system is really compromised. It's just one more way your body prepares you not to fight off the foreign invader, your embryo -- you your baby can develop to full term.

When you're immune system is low, you can easily catch the flu when pregnant. That's one reason why pregnant women are first in line to get the novel flu vaccination. But another nasty symptom for pregnant women is a listeria infection. You don't want the runs because the contractions from your colon can stimulate your uterus to go into labor. That's why in the 1960s, most women arriving in a hospital to give birth not yet in labor were given enemas not only to clean them out before they get on the delivery table, but to induce labor contractions. So you don't want to contract listeria.

When you're pregnant, you're 20 times more likely to catch a bacteria or virus infection...

Okay then!

• On a twitter related note, today was #thridpersonthurs, so many of us were having fun sounding like Bob Dole and James Harline today. Twitter can be a fun distraction some days, for sure.

So anywho...It's an open thread! What are you thinking about today, or what books or articles have you been reading the past few days? Wanna share?

And again, please feel free to chat, blogwhore, and link-share in the comment thread because...it's an open thread! Woo-hoo!  

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iReps?


My America includes LGBT families.

Barney Frank is Wrong. And Right
Hey, I know it is a little dated but it IS my latest blog post for Ingersoll Gender Center.

"Any transition serious enough to alter your definition of self will require not just small adjustments in your way of living and thinking but a full-on metamorphosis."

ah poor Keith Bardwell
I have piles and piles of black friends. They come to my home, I marry them, they use my bathroom. I treat them just like everyone else.

he is trying too hard.  


use his bathroom?


"Any transition serious enough to alter your definition of self will require not just small adjustments in your way of living and thinking but a full-on metamorphosis."

[ Parent ]
Maybe they use the downstairs bathroom, the one with the "colored" sign on the door


God save ornery old queens! - kevinchi

[ Parent ]
yes, the guy is an assh*le,
BUT, I found the last sentence in the story the most telling.

"I didn't tell this couple they couldn't get married. I just told them I wouldn't do it." he said.

Which is EXACTLY the freedom that Maine's marriage equality law promises to individuals and religious institutions. We have offered them the freedom to be whatever kind of bigoted jerks they want to be on this issue, now we must allow them to exercise it.

Either that or we need to be honest and change the law to say "everyone, everywhere, who is authorized to perform a marriage ceremony, MUST perform a ceremony if it is legal, regardless whether the officiant agrees with or endorses the union."

We ought not offer freedom of choice then get pissy when people make a choice we don't like.


[ Parent ]
I didn't read it to say not only that he wouldn't perform the ceremony
I read that he refused to issue them a license, which is not the same thing. If he's the only person in the parish who can issue marriage licenses, then as an official of the state he has to do so. It doesn't mean he has to be the one to perform the solemnization, which is what all the marriage equality laws do. I'm not up on Louisiana state and parish laws; is there a "conscience clause" so state officials can refuse to do their jobs if they don't like the people in front of their desk?

I find it disgusting that "morality clauses" make it all right for christians to refuse gay people marriage solemnizations and women birth control prescriptions, but the day a gay employer refuses to hire a christian on the grounds that the person would create a hostile work environment due to his religious beliefs, there will be a lawsuit filed so fast our heads will spin.

God save ornery old queens! - kevinchi


[ Parent ]
But is he following the law in his state?
Generally, officials don't get to pick and choose which laws they will follow, and more than regular citizens do.

In Maine, the law exempts JP's and others from having to perform any particular marriage if they so choose. I imagine in 50 or 100 years when equal marriage is the law of the entire land, Mainers will go back and change this part of their state law. For now, I understand why it is written the way it is and have no problem with it.

The guy in Louisiana, though - he's probably violating not just state law but federal civil rights protections.


[ Parent ]
Ooops. I recently swore I'd never again post in a Sandeen thread.
And now I've mistakenly done so. Could a mod humor me and erase these posts? Hey, I'll even contribute to your favorite charity in thanks if you'll email me the details.

[ Parent ]
His concern is for the children
While such a child occupies the White House.

Brilliant.

Ad for the detainees, well, actually, people don't get a say in such -- federal prisons are federal jurisdiction, not state.

http://www.dyssonance.com  Breaking all the rules...


Patience is bitter, its fruit sweet.
"I find the great thing in this world is , not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving."

"As the tree is fertilized by its own broken branches and fallen leaves, and grows out of its own decay, so (wo)men and nations are bettered and improved by trial, and refined out of broken hopes and blighted expectations."

"Never give a sucker an even break.  Compound fractures are much more fun."

http://www.dyssonance.com  Breaking all the rules...


Battle in Seattle
I decided to take a gander at this, having seen it all live. It's an amazing protrayal. Hell, I was thankful they actually bothered to film it here. I know it has that special drama added to make everything more "exciting" but still...brought back the good old days.

"Any transition serious enough to alter your definition of self will require not just small adjustments in your way of living and thinking but a full-on metamorphosis."

God bless the efforts of Maine's WCSH6
And so many other Maine media outlets, who've really done a stellar job of reporting on Question 1 (as far as I can tell).

http://www.wcsh6.com/

We can't make it over there this year, but if Question 1 is rejected, we already know where we'll be vacationing next year.

Any good film festivals in Maine? Maybe we'll drop in for MIFF 13.  Depending on how things play out, maybe "8: The Mormon Proposition" would be a good fit for next year's program?  That would be a treat.

twitter.com/ChinoBlanco | youtube.com/ChinoBlanco


Obama is HERE today!
The president himself is visiting this little crap town I call home today.  I really wanted to get to see the speech, but it was announced as "invitation only."  Needless to say, this whole bit has caused controversy here.  Old Bush even wrote a letter to the student body of the university, asking them to respect the office of the president.  The notion that it was necessary to tell the citizens of this town to be good is ridiculous, but it shows what type of people inhabit this place.  

I'm sure we will make the national news for the asshattery that will take place.  


ANNOUNCEMENT: Bridezilla Francesca Kafka-Yossarian Goes to Court
Okay, so I'm the petitioner and the attorney for petitioner (thus having a fool for a client, perhaps), not some fictional protagonist tragic antiheroine amalgamation. I'm taking the opportunity to announce this here, before the New York Post (whose reporter just interviewed me because she hangs around courthouses just looking for this kind of "scoop") scoops me:

I'm planning on getting married November 8th.

In New York, you need proof of identity (e.g., Driver's license) and proof of age (e.g., birth certificate, baptismal certificate).

On October 2, I went to get my birth certificate from the New York City Bureau of Vital Records, and went again the following Tuesday after the initial "easy way out" (having my mom order by phone) turned out to be no longer available.

They require proof of identity - again, a driver's license should work.  But I did a common law name change in 2000, more than seven years ago, and all my identity papers are in my current name.  So I brought my Declaration of Name Change, together with an old New York photo Driver's license with the same number, same birth date, same height, but different name, sex and photo, to bolster the proof of identity.  I also had a completely filled in application for copy of official birth record, and my check for the fee.

I was turned down on a "Catch 22."

The bureaucracy was consistent:

They told me:
a. My proof of identity is not proper.  1. Current Driver's license has a different name.  2. Old driver's license is expired. 3. The only acceptable proof of name change is a judicial court order, even to get the original never-amended record.

So, according to them, I need a judicial name change to get my old-name never-changed birth certificate. (Fact - I found no such written rule - I need a judicial name change to change my name on my birth certificate, but that wasn't my application);

BUT here's the catch - I did a common law name change, and I don't need a court-ordered name change as provided by Article 6 of the New York Civil Rights Law - but let's say I could do the Article 6 Name Change - the statute requires that I  attach to the Petition for the name change an official copy of my birth certificate record.

Catch 22!!!

I need a "judicial name change order" to get my birth record, but, to get a judicial name change order, I need my birth certificate record.

The supervisors at Vital records could not help me; they thought I might be a twin.  They even went to their staff counsel. I got nowhere.

No birth certificate, no marriage license.  No marriage license, no wedding (commitment ceremony instead), no joint federal tax returne, etc.

In this case, Bridezilla happens to be a lawyer, so I spent a week (in between everything else) throwing together an "Article 78" proceeding

a. sounding in what used to be called mandamus, for the court to direct the Bureau of Vital Records to issue the birth record;

b. asking the court to issue an order "confirming" my common law name change - in this part of the application, I provide all the information the court needs to issue an Article 6 Name Change Order, except the order doesn;t "change" my name (since my name is already Joann!).  Even if the Catch-22 otherwise has to stay in place, getting this order would allow me a workaround - a "judicial order" that confirms my common law name change, that I can use with Vital Records and other government agencies in a post-9/11 environment;

c. attacking the current regulation for recognizing correction of sex designation as "arbitrary and capricious" when applied to persons in my situation who have medical conditions that bar me from what the NYCDOHMH calls "corrective surgery;" and finally,

d. attacking the current regulation for recognizing correction of sex designation as "arbitrary and capricious" because it is still based on "expert knowledge" from a 1965 medical commission, and there have been numerous advances in scientific and medical understanding that make it clear that my (and others') initial sex designation was erroneous.

For the last two causes of action, I suggest the DOHMH be directed to adopt the proposal that had been worked on between 2003 and late 2006 and then dropped after a very favorable public hearing, primarily because of fears that any change in December 2006 would have been erased by then-pending Homeland Security regulations regarding the Real I.D. Act.

I think I can show that the intent and effect of the possibly unwritten Catch-22 rule that prevents me from getting my birth certificate record is both arbitrary and capricious and intended to harm and discriminate against people like me (broadly: intersex, transsexual or transgender - anyone who might have been assigned one way at birth but who have done things to correct the situation via legal common law means).

It may be longer odds to get the court to agree that the sex correction regulation is boradly arbitrary and capricious.  I do know that the "getting the birth certificate" part has to be resolved quickly - the rest of the relief is not likely to be summarily decided without a trial.  I am going to have to have some serious medical testing so I can have doctors and surgeons lined up to testify as to surgery being unavailable to me because of medical conditions.  I also have Dr. Milton Diamond from the University of Hawaii on my wish list for an expert witness.  None of this is going to be cheap, and I do hope that if I can get some encouraging preliminary rulings, I can find some deeper pocket legal support.

Final note:  I made sure I let the Post writer know that the New York Times writer Damian Cave libeled me in a November 2006 article.  I think the Post might like the idea of portraying my situation sympathetically rather than pulling its usual "trans person as circus freak" thing, if they can take the opportunityto tweak the Times for doing just that . . .

(And if you ask, why did I talk to the Post reporter?  I researched her first - she seems to specialize in stories that have a "little persoon against the faceless bureaucracy" ring to them - and this case does have that angle to it.  

I also used the "bureaucratic insanity as giving in to terrorism" or "giving up a little liberty to get a little security usually results in losing both" slant - telling the writer that rules like this, and other insane rules like making people take their shoes off to get on an airplane, are all due to fear of terrorism - and that means terrorism won.  "It would be easier for a terrorist with a forged driver's license to get my birth record, than it is for me telling the truth.")

I know I am taking a risk here, since the Post can slant this as "Crazy Tranny Lawsuit Attacks Our Government Officials." But this Post writer doesn't seem to do that - and I hope her editors realize that the other slants will sell more papers anyway.

Oh well - I had to buy the index number anyway, I may as well get all the bang I can for the money.  The existing caselaw on New York City's sex correction rule dates back to 1966 and the early 1970's - it's really time for a little judicial review - what may not have seemed arbitrary and capricious in 1965 might seen by the court to be egregiously so in 2009.


Smearing Kevin Jenning about being in ACT UP
hateful  bigots at Breibart TV
video at link
  http://www.breitbart.tv/reveal...

I told these putrid a$$wipes being in ACT UP was as common for gay men, (and some lesbians) as a republican being in the NRA.

ACT UP
FIGHT BACK
FIGHT AIDS

it so common used, it's a lyric in RENT
la vie boheme
  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...

just playing the RENT video, and all the anger at Breibart TV, has brought on a massive wave of grief and loss, it doesn't wash over me like this often, but it is now.
The footage of gay brothers so sick and weighing 60 lbs, lesions all over their bodies dropping themselves on concrete steps to be arrested in Civil Disobedience.
KNOWING they wouldn't get their meds, and treated roughly being arrested...and still they dropped themselves down.

What have you done today, to make ya feel PROUD?


~Heather Small


Did some searching around today
I have this t-shirt from back in the day, It's worn by Fuzzy in the final  scene of Longtime Companion

  http://media.photobucket.com/i...

Zane Campbell Post Mortem Bar
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...

for friends long past

What have you done today, to make ya feel PROUD?


~Heather Small


[ Parent ]
Autumn, thanks for the Psychiatry Times link, that's a good article


Be better, not bitter!

Fish Tacos
I am having Mexican Seafood tonight at Fuego's!  Red Snapper Fish Tacos anyone?   Mmmmmm =0)

Fish Tacos
I am having Mexican Seafood tonight at Fuego's!  Red Snapper Fish Tacos anyone?   Mmmmmm =0)

Finally some sunshine ,here it poured here last night
The day was fairly pleasant light wind, and around 70's.
I took my tools and a ladder and took after some privot bushes (triming them a little over 6 ft) they are about 15 ft now.
There is nothing worse than an unsightly bush ;)

This ground cover we have with small yellow daisy like flowers, which covers a multitude of sins, grew CRAZY through that rain nearly covering our back door steps,, and a path to our shed....so I whacked that down with hedge shears.
I'd like to put some quick growing seeds for marigolds or dwarf zinnias, but that'd entail weeding,(not high on my yard list so far.) Maybe I'll wait and buy some flats of ornamental kale and dwarf snap dragons, they winter over here, and make another show early in the spring. My MN gardening training doesn't suit this climate AT ALL. I'm used to growing May to September, and here it's Febuary thru Dec.

What have you done today, to make ya feel PROUD?


~Heather Small


Best line from Bill Maher tonight
He put up Michelle Bachman's photo

"The floor of the cave called, it wants it's bat sh*t back"
  http://www.ajwnews.com/wp-cont...

What have you done today, to make ya feel PROUD?


~Heather Small


Oral Diaries of Senior LGBTs
I got an email that the local LGBT organization is collecting LGBT's oral diaries, I'm only a few years shy of the age requirement, but thought this might be an interesting feature for members/guests of the blend, to create a diary of their recollections. We have those alive who saw the birth of our Human Rights movement, and I'd find it interesting to hear their stories.

What have you done today, to make ya feel PROUD?


~Heather Small


Oh Lordy, my hubby got up before me with a stick up his butt to clear shrubs
A tree row I planted about 5 years ago he took after with loppers, saws, hedge clippers and pruners. I've hauled 6 wheel barrows full of branches back to our burn pile....my shoulders feel like someone smacked them with a sledge hammer. I'd made my own piles of privot branches 2 days ago, which also needed hauling. I'm not saying much about what happened to several things I planted now whacked to the ground to my hubby, it won't restore them, and won't be a calm discussion.
un marital bliss.
I maybe able to find the stumps of somethings and try to transplant them, they may come back and maybe trash now.

I keep thinking of a routine of a lesbian comic and her dog a boxer,(seems it's Elaine Boozler's routine).
They have the dog nuetered, docks it's tail, and have it's ears clipped. The dog says...."If you wanted a smaller dog, why didn't you buy a smaller dog!"

What have you done today, to make ya feel PROUD?


~Heather Small


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