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California Marriage 101

by: Pam Spaulding

Mon Jun 16, 2008 at 06:00:00 AM EDT


The National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) has issued a FAQ on getting married in California. I wanted to include a snippet of the full document with some key info. It's below the fold (h/t Paul Barwick).
Pam Spaulding :: California Marriage 101
Who can marry?

To be eligible to marry in California, each person in a couple must:
  • Be 18 years of age or older (if either or both are younger than 18, different procedures apply)
  • Not be closely related by blood or marriage to their intended spouse.
  • Not be married to or in a registered domestic partnership or civil union with anyone else. (Please note: Any divorce from a previous marriage, or dissolution of a civil union or domestic partnership with another person, must be final at the time a person applies for a marriage license.)


How do we get a marriage license?

You must apply for a marriage license at the Office of the County Clerk or County Recorder of any California county (it does not need to be to be the county where you live or where you plan to marry).

Some clerks' offices require that you set up an appointment in advance to apply—call the clerk's office or visit the clerk's website to find out more information. (Note: San Francisco County is by appointment only. Licenses will NOT be given on a first-come, first-served basis.)


You can download a license application from most counties' websites to complete in advance or simply get and complete the form when you visit the County Clerk's office.

What do we need to bring with us when we apply for a license?

In order to receive a marriage license, both members of the couple must go to the Clerk's office together and bring:

1. Picture ID
Bring a Driver's License or other valid government-issued identification. Some counties recommend bringing certified copies of your birth certificates—you can contact the county office you plan to visit in advance to find out if this is recommended. Know your parents' names, mother's maiden name, and where your parents were born.

2. Payment
The county clerks charge a fee for issuing the license, and the fee varies by county, but it is generally less than $100. Contact the clerk in the county where you intend to apply to find out how much the fee is and what method of payment—cash, check, or credit card—they will accept.

3. Information about previous marriages
If you have been married before, you will need to provide information about the specific date your last marriage(s) ended as well as how it/they ended (e.g. death, dissolution, divorce, or nullity.) Some counties may require a copy of the final judgment if your previous marriage ended by dissolution or nullity.

Remember, marriage is a serious legal and personal commitment that should not be entered into lightly. Before getting married, couples should educate themselves about the legal consequences of marriage. We advise that you seek individualized legal advice as well. Important Note: Binational couples in which one member does not have permanent legal resident status in this country, anyone serving in the U.S. military, anyone considering adopting a child from another country, and anyone receiving government financial assistance should consult with an attorney with expertise in these areas of law before getting married.

For further information, click here to read the full FAQ's about marriage in California put together by NCLR.

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In February of 2004
my other half and I decided to strike a blow and we were one of the couples who got married in San Francisco. A funny thing happened, though, as we stood in the rotunda looking like drowned rats and exchanged vows. I found it really meant something to me to be married.

This time we're not striking a blow. Our (right wing, ultra conservative) parents are going to be there, and siblings, and friends. There's part of me that still can't believe it. Ever since the court ruling I've had a song stuck in my head

I'm getting married in the morning
Ding dong the bells are going to chime...


Cause any fool knows, a dog needs a home; a shelter from pigs on the wing


Congratulations!

So glad its a big family/friend to do this time. That just spreads and spreads the joy.

Here's the show version.


I'm gettin' married in the morning
?Ding-dong the bells are gonna chime?
We'll have a whopper, pull out the stopper?
Get me to the church on time??

I've got to get there in the morning?
Spruced up and lookin' in my prime?
Pull out your compass, kick up a rompass?
Get me to the church on time??

If i am dancing roll up the floor
?If I'm romancin', throw her out the door??

I'm gettin'' married in the morning?
Ding-ding-dong they're gonna chime?
Girls come and kiss me, say that you'll miss me?
But get me to the church on time?

 



It's the Hammer of JUSTICE,
It's the Bell of FREEDOM,
It's the Song about LOVE between,
my Brothers and my Sisters
...All over this Land.


[ Parent ]
BUTTE... Can do it in CHICO!

Actually in Butte county there is the County seat Oroville... very 'blue-collar',major industry the Casino,  a few other small farming communities and  Chico... college town... love it!  So it was announced today that same-sex weddings can be scheduled here in Chico. So our little bigoted Clerk can just stay busy in Oroville denying ALL couples ceremonies.(Asides in article mine.)

www.chicoer.com/news/ci_9597679
Chico center to perform same-sex marriages
By Staff Reports
Article Launched: 06/16/2008 12:00:00 AM PDT

CHICO -- Following a decision to end marriage ceremonies at the Butte County Clerk-Recorder's Office, the Chico Peace and Justice Center will offer the civil service to same-sex marriages.
A press release issued Friday stated the center will offer the civil service for free beginning Tuesday.(YAY!)
On May 15, the California Supreme Court declared the state Constitution protects a fundamental "right to marry" that extends to same-sex couples.
Earlier in the week Butte County Clerk-Recorder Candace Grubbs said she would no longer perform civil marriages (for anyone) due to budget cuts that were decided in March.(HA!)
Same-sex couples planning to marry need to obtain a license through the clerk-recorder's office at 25 County Center Drive in Oroville.
Licenses are $77 and blood tests are no longer required. Couples must appear together with identification, know their parents' full names and states they were born in, as well as their mother's maiden name.
The ceremonies will be performed by Susan Tchudi, an ordained minister of the Universal Life Church, and Pastor David Moss of Trinity United Methodist Church in Chico.
Same-sex couples who wish to be married may call the center to schedule a time to talk with either officiant before they make their union legal.
"Pastor Moss and Susan Tchudi would like time in advance to talk with the couple, as they would with a heterosexual couple, to be sure that there is a deep commitment," center executive director Sue Hilderbrand said.
"We're going to just open our doors and see what happens. The board decided to do (the marriage services) for free, but if people want to donate to our operating expenses, that's fine," Hilderbrand told the E-R Friday. "It's a matter of giving us a call and I'll connect people and Tuesday the weddings can begin."
Weddings will be in the Chico Peace and Justice Garden. Reservations may be made by calling 893-9078.
The center is at 526 Broadway.



It's the Hammer of JUSTICE,
It's the Bell of FREEDOM,
It's the Song about LOVE between,
my Brothers and my Sisters
...All over this Land.


Yey Chico Peace and Justice Center


[ Parent ]
New marriage forms available online today
I've been monitoring the website of California Department of Public Health which oversees marriage licenses and certificates (via Vital Records Dept).  As of today they have several "notices" about regulations, however the page which lists the requirements for obtaining a marriage license stills says "unmarried man" and "unmarried woman".

Here's a page which links to new form with Party A and Party B.  This is new on the website as of today.
http://www.cdph.ca.gov/HealthI...
All forms on the site say only Party A and B.  

Stills says man and woman:
http://www.cdph.ca.gov/certlic...

Congratulations to all the happy couples.


Unexpected Fallout
I was speaking with Mom in our weekly phone call.  The subject of gay marriage came up.  She said, "Maybe they'll get gay marriage where you live then you can find someone and settle down."  Loving Mom's will now be able to nag at the GLBT kids, "Get married already!"

My parents
are ultra right wing and we've had a tumultuous relationship that's only settled down in the last 5-10 years. My now fiance and I are allowed to stay at their house in the same room, but only after I told them it was that or we just wouldn't visit at all. It took them about 7 years to decide that we really were going to stay together and it wasn't just an extended one night stand.

My mother actually said this is a relief, because we'll be married now and she didn't like the idea of an unmarried couple sleeping together in her house. I think that was her biggest problem with it - we were shacking up.

Cause any fool knows, a dog needs a home; a shelter from pigs on the wing


[ Parent ]
Congrats QueerinSoCal
No irony about the double standard tho, that you weren't allowed to be married before now.

[ Parent ]
That was my mom!
When I first came out to her in 1986, she was not as evolved as she is today. Her big issue was, You can't be queer if that means not having children, because I want grandchildren.

Then we moved on to, You can't expect me to condone your sleeping in the same bed with your girlfriend under my roof--you're not married!

By about 1993, when the Hawaii decision brought the reality of same sex marriage into her awareness, she was over that; because she realized how long it would take for us to change the law, she moved on to 'have a church ceremony'.

But wait, there's more!


[ Parent ]
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