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Donna Rose resigns from HRC board

by: Pam Spaulding

Wed Oct 03, 2007 at 13:30:00 PM EDT


Not good. The only transgender member of the Human Rights Campaign board, Donna Rose, has stepped down. Her statement is below the fold.
Pam Spaulding :: Donna Rose resigns from HRC board
Via Democracy in Action:

Community. Integrity. Leadership. Vision. These are the foundational pillars of Equality. These are the values that draw many of us into advocacy roles. Those tenets provide a clear roadmap when things like politics, expediency, agenda, and power cloud the picture as they so often do. They pave the way to the moral high-ground, and those who follow them with trust and patience will ultimately find their efforts rewarded.

My name is Donna Rose, and I am the first and only openly transgender member of the Board of Directors of the Human Rights Campaign. I am the national co-chair for Diversity. I am the co-chair appointee-elect for the Business Council. I have spoken at events around the country on behalf of the organization, and I am a respected advocate for the transgender community.

My participation on the HRC Board has been a heavy burden. The relationship between HRC and the transgender community is one scarred by betrayal, distrust, and anger. I have become a focal point for much of that frustration and I accepted that responsibility with the hope that I could help to change it. In some very real ways I think I have been able to do that, or at least to help make that happen, and am tremendously proud of all we have achieved.

HRC has done some wonderful work to support the transgender community. Workplaces around the country are recognizing the unique challenges faced by transgender employees and are moving in record numbers to protect them as valued members of an inclusive workforce. Educational tools to help demystify our lives and to provide a human perspective have paved to way to a better understanding of who we are and our challenges. We have set high standards and we have held others accountable to them. The question at hand is whether we, as an organization, hold ourselves accountable to those same high expectations.

Transgender is not simply the 'T' in GLBT. It is people who, for one reason or another, may not express their gender in ways that conform to traditional gender norms or expectations. That covers everyone from transsexuals, to queer youth, to feminine acting men, to masculine appearing women. It is a broad label that cannot be confined to a specific silo of people. It is anyone who chooses to live authentically. To think that the work that we are doing on behalf of the entire GLBT community simply benefits or protects part of us is to choose a simplistic view of a complex community. In a very real way, the T is anyone who expresses themselves differently. To some it is about gender. To me, it is about freedom.

The Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) is a core piece of legislation. It would guarantee that GLBT people will not get fired from their jobs because of discrimination and prejudice. It makes a strong statement that discrimination of any kind is unacceptable, and it recognizes the critical role of employment and career as something more than simply a paycheck. It is a source of pride, of achievement, of belonging, of security, and in a very real way it is a validation of person-hood.

Unemployment and under-employment is the single most significant issue facing transgender people today. The high-profile case of Susan Stanton, city manager from Largo, FL who was fired early this year after an exemplary 17-year career there simply because she was outed as being transgender, demonstrates the continuing experience that many of us continue to face each and every day in workplaces around this country. Although workplaces have made tremendous strides in enacting supportive policy, bad things still happen and the overall message being sent is that we're somehow expendable. In years past these things happened quietly, going unnoticed. Those days are numbered.

That's why ENDA is so important. It is more than simply a statement that it's not ok to fire GLBT people for reasons unrelated to work performance. It's a statement that we are a community. It's recognition of people who may not express their gender in traditional ways does not affect a person's ability to contribute as simply another part of a diverse workforce. It's a validation of those foundational pillars that line the moral high ground. And, it's recognition that each of us has value, and none of us will be left behind.

The current situation regarding ENDA is nothing short of a politically misguided tragedy. A tool that could and should be a unifying beacon on the heels of the historic passage of fully inclusive Hate Crime legislation has been split. Transgender brothers and sisters again find themselves separated, isolated, and disempowered. People in positions of power have decided that their personal legacy and the promise of political expediency are more important than protecting our entire beautiful community. The time is here to make a strong statement to demonstrate to them that they are wrong.

In 2004 the HRC Board voted to support only fully-inclusive Federal legislation. That decision paved the way to my participation with the organization, and was a significant step in the healing process. Since that time we have worked together tirelessly towards a goal of Equality for all. Less than a month ago HRC President Joe Solmonese stood before almost 900 transgender people at the Southern Comfort Conference in Atlanta to pledge ongoing support and solidarity. In his keynote address he indicated that not only would HRC support only a fully inclusive ENDA, but that it would actively oppose anything less. That single pledge changed hearts and minds that day, and the ripple affect throughout the transgender community was that we finally were one single GLBT community working together. Sadly, recent events indicate that those promises were hollow.

An impressive coalition of local and national organizations has lined up to actively oppose the divisive strategy that would leave some of our brothers and sisters without workplace protections. This effort has galvanized community spirit and commitment in ways few could have imagined, and it has demonstrated to those who would divide us that anything less than full inclusion is unacceptable Organization after organization has seized the moral high ground knowing that this is a historic opportunity that cannot be squandered, and that it is our moral obligation to ourselves and to generations that will follow to make a loud, clear, unmistakable statement that we are a community and we will not be divided. There is a single significant organization glaringly missing from that list. The Human Rights Campaign has chosen not to be there.

It is impossible to remove passion and emotion from what has happened. Indeed, those are the fuels that propel us. That being said please know that this entire situation has affected me deeply and profoundly. Still, I will not sling mud at the organization to who I have given my heart, my energies, and my trust. I will not give in to my frustration and disappointment that Joe's words of less than a month ago have proven to be hollow promises. This unfortunate turn of events has forced me to make some very difficult personal decisions about integrity, character, community, and leadership. Although I can find any number of logical and personal reasons to continue in my capacity as a board member, I cannot escape the moral implications of the decision before me. Using that as my guide, as difficult as it is for me to make, the decision is an obvious one.

I hereby submit my resignation from my post on the Board of the Human Rights Campaign effective Monday Oct. 8, 2007. I call on other like-minded board members, steering committee leaders, donors, corporate sponsors, and volunteers to think long and hard about whether this organization still stands for your values and to take decisive action as well. More than simply a question of organization policy, this is a test of principle and integrity and although it pains me greatly to see what has happened it is clear to me that there can only be one path. Character is not for compromise. I cannot align myself with an organization that I can't trust to stand-up for all of us. More than that, I cannot give half-hearted support to an organization that has now chosen to forsake the tenets that have guided my efforts from day one.

I align myself and my energies with the groundswell of community sentiment that has universally stood to oppose this divisive strategy. I wish my friends and colleagues from the Human Rights Campaign the best, and I expect that time will prove their decision to take a neutral stance and to fracture our community to be short-sighted and misguided. I accept the notion that we all want the same thing. It's just that I couldn't disagree more with this destructive strategy to get there. I urge the board and the leadership to reconsider their position and the join a unified community that supports a single all-inclusive bill.

History teaches painful lessons. Any celebration of rights gained at the expense of others is not a celebration. It is a failure of effective leadership. It is to offer the promise of a tomorrow that you know in your heart will never come. It is to choose to turn your back on those who need you most, who do not have the voice or the stature to speak for themselves.

The time is here for leaders to lead, for those who say they stand for community to act forcefully and with purpose. Anything less is to forsake the pillars of Equality for the empty promise of something less. The word that we have for that in our language is "Courage". It's the kind of courage it takes for GLBT people to show up for work each and every day, living authentically, wondering if that will be their last day. I call on my brothers and sisters at the Human Rights Campaign, for Speaker Pelosi and Congressman Frank, and for equality-minded leaders everywhere to lead by example and to do the right thing.

In Solidarity for Equality,

Donna Rose

This painful wound must be healed. The real enemy is the right -- have we forgotten this? Have the people on the Hill forgotten this?

To turn on one another advances nothing. HRC, no matter what opinion one holds of the org, these folks do the work on the Hill. Where did the gauging of ENDA as a do-able priority (say over DADT repeal, which seems much more do-able), gain traction?

In any case, this whole "family fight," is undermining the long view of equality. There are no winners in this kind of a backstabbing event, where LGBs can be seen doling out horrible anti-T bigotry in the comments of blogs. I can only hope that Donna will reconsider this decision, but I have great respect for her efforts to represent the T perspective to the HRC board.

We're at a where-do-we-go-from-here moment -- everyone is pointing fingers.

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Wow.
May I be the first to request that Donna travel the country, giving lessons on how to be a class act?

It's not always easy to do the right thing, but it's often impossible to do the right thing in the right way. While I understand her choice to disengage may disappoint some, no one can suggest that she hasn't shown a path toward productive engagement for all of us.

Donna, may they see the light and throw a parade in your honor.

But wait, there's more!


I hope we
go to a place of healing.  That's my hope.  For my part, I'm trying to support trans-inclusive organizations and contacting my representatives.

These are really standouts in the above moving and more-gracious-than-anyone-could-be-expected-to-be plea to do the right thing:

Transgender is not simply the 'T' in GLBT. It is people who, for one reason or another, may not express their gender in ways that conform to traditional gender norms or expectations. That covers everyone from transsexuals, to queer youth, to feminine acting men, to masculine appearing women. It is a broad label that cannot be confined to a specific silo of people. It is anyone who chooses to live authentically.
By that extremely pragmatic definition (since that word is flying around lately), I am proudly T. I strive to be T.

"Any celebration of rights gained at the expense of others is not a celebration. It is a failure of effective leadership. It is to offer the promise of a tomorrow that you know in your heart will never come. It is to choose to turn your back on those who need you most, who do not have the voice or the stature to speak for themselves."
This is at the heart of this issue for me.  The discriminatory ENDA is exactly a poor attempt to gain a civil right at the cost of keeping that right from someone else. No thanks.

Electricity's for light bulbs!

A wonderful letter
That was a truly eloquent and heartfelt  letter, and I can only imagine how painful it must have been to write.  The problem is, that this sort of passionate arguing for the worth of trans people, indeed of all people, shouldn't have to be spent educating other LGBT folks.  It would be a much better use of Donna Rose's time, and all of our time, if we could be talking to those who would deny us our humanity.  Sadly, HRC hasn't made that an option.

Just recieved from HRC, Action Alert,
  Asking me to send this to my representatives,

I believe all people deserve full protection under the law against employment discrimination. No one should be prevented from making a living based on who they are, or who an employer thinks they are.

I'm disappointed that all gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people will not be protected under this version of the bill.  Please work to ensure that all members of the GLBT community are protected from employment discrimination.

  Sorry HRC, But I can not send this.  But I can send you this,

To HRC,

  I can no longer support your organization for the reason you will not oppose HB 3685.
I believe that going forward on HB 3685 is the wrong thing to do, as do many other LGBT organizations.

  If you would like my continued support of your organization, I would urge you to openly express that your opposition to HB 3685.

  Sincerely,



If I make sense? it was quite by accident.

HRC Action Alert
 "However, we're facing a stark reality."
======================================
Yes Joe - you are. Just not the one you think. You're forfeiting the moral authority to claim leadership of the community. I say this not only as a transgender person - but as a former HRC Steering Committee Member.


[ Parent ]
Right On

When oranizations no longer represent the people they claim to it is time to leave them.

There are other organizations out there which better represent the broad intrests of the whole LGBT community.  HRC represents straight acting conservative white men.

 It also represents only those of a certain class and fails to represent the intrests of the working class TLBG community.



So true!
Well I heard this 2nd hand here in LA.  I met this guy who was a member of HRC.  He left for many reasons. But one thing he did not like was that it was primarily white gay men like him.  He wanted diversity but it did not seem like an open/inclusive organization.

[ Parent ]
This is probably the worst news I heard

Despite my diary on wanting to divorce myself from the HRC because of their "separate but equal" approach to ENDA, I kept hoping beyond hope that the "inside game" that Donna Rose brought to the HRC's board would change the hearts and minds of the other HRC board members.

With her resignation, she's basically sent me the message -- me and the transgender community -- that the HRC is, at least currently, beyond hope.

I don't know how a good end comes out of all this.

-----
~~Autumn~~

As if there were safety in stupidity alone.
--Henry David Thoreau


What else besides bumper stickers?

What does HRC do really?  What is their mission statement.

 If they really are "human rights" campagin, why not include EVERYONE?

 I mean they don't even have the word gay or lesbian in their publicity brochures.

I always wondered if they were afraid to say the L word or the other letters.

How many bumper stickers can I throw away?

 



[ Parent ]
stores
They have a nice store in Provincetown. Wonderful open big spacey sidewalk in front of it for people to hand out brochures suggesting better places to spend our money.

[ Parent ]
Agree - WOW!!!

The woman has class & integrity.

So - will HRC be sending out a special alert to respond to this?



we could a new federation of all the state equality groups

"Transgender is not simply the 'T' in GLBT. It is people who, for one reason or another, may not express their gender in ways that conform to traditional gender norms or expectations. That covers everyone from transsexuals, to queer youth, to feminine acting men, to masculine appearing women. It is a broad label that cannot be confined to a specific silo of people. It is anyone who chooses to live authentically. To think that the work that we are doing on behalf of the entire GLBT community simply benefits or protects part of us is to choose a simplistic view of a complex community. In a very real way, the T is anyone who expresses themselves differently. To some it is about gender. To me, it is about freedom. "   yes that paragraph hit me too , it sums it all up perfectly..Right ON Donna !

 

 i just came from a place i do not go..that fancy smancy americablog..john averious spot..- one word DISGUSTING ! his take on this issue..i will never surf there again. AS for the HRC apologists..look deeper , they are the face of the DLC. take our money..sweet talk , lie, and betray us.    

And yeah HRC - too little way too, late, slimey , sneaky political PAC , yeah they have a foundation..they are traitors to our true cause.  I got that emai too ..i thought AS IF ! LYERS CHEATS, AS IF  i would send you a freakin thing. DC sell outs.  Anyone who thinks that the T in LGBT is negotiable or even controversial...get real.  We are the movement we are, the community we are, and yes its taken 20 yrs to hammer this out. 

 

I don't care what the political realities are..I care about Civil Rights which must be demanded. Half measures , avail us nothing. Now the true friend we have is Kucinich dammit...send him some gay money. Shock the system.  Note he is our true friend because is a true friend of humanity.  Any LGBT that would vote for Clinton is out of their minds..that is collusion.  sorry just had to get that off my chest.. The longer we stay inside the box..of accepting the political realities ..the longer we empower those same realities that our destroying the planet, and all communities that are not part of corporate elite oligarchy.

 



if you really
want to prevent yourself from giving into the temptation of visiting a website you've vowed never to return to, you can always override it in your hosts file.  A line like this will do the trick:
127.0.0.1  www.InsertWebsiteNeverToVisitHere.com

You can edit your host file via opening a command prompt and entering:
notepad C:\WINDOWS\system32\drivers\etc\hosts

You won't be able to access www.InsertWebsiteNeverToVisitHere.com until you remove or comment out (#) that line.

In fact, changing your host file is one way to block many unwanted things (zero commercial affiliation to that link BTW - it's just what I use and have modified to blank out certain sites.).

Note: avoid changing system files unless you're comfortable doing that sort of thing.

Electricity's for light bulbs!


[ Parent ]
Donna - change your mind

I know it may make sense to resign your leadership position with the HRC but I want to ask you to reconsider.

Sure, the HRC has made a mess of this issue. But, I don't think the answer is to quit. While you may be uncomfortable being in the room with so many people who don't get it, I believe that the majority of Board members actually do understand that our community is stronger because of our trans sisters and brothers.

We need you, Donna, to serve as a reminder to those who are short-sighted on trans inclusion of ENDA that gender identity is a worthy piece of our united fight for equal rights. Don't leave the room just yet - give yourself a few weeks to fight the good fight and let's see what happens.

By the way - DO NOT think that the anti-trans opinions being published on Americablog are in any way reflective of the majority of gay white men. As you know, nearly every LGBT organization has come down on the side of a trans inclusive ENDA. History will reward those who stand on the right side of this issue.



That's what she'd been doing for over 3 years...

Joe Solmonese lied.  Brazenly.  He stood up at and vowed that HRC would work to defeat any legislation that wasn't inclusive-- less than a month ago.  It's on YouTube.  There's no nuance to be had-- it was an outright lie.  How is Donna supposed to work to change that?  How can she possibly work to change from within an organization that so clearly doesn't respect trans people?

I'm also not so sure this is as big a deal as some people are making it out to be.  It marks the end of HRC as the official political action committee of all LGBT people, which, in some respects is huge.  But, HRC never really played that role-- certainly not for trans people (or poor, non-white LGB people).  This isn't the end of the LGBT coalition, it's simply the end of HRC being part of it.



[ Parent ]
Right here.


-----
~~Autumn~~

As if there were safety in stupidity alone.
--Henry David Thoreau


[ Parent ]
Tearing down

And people wonder why I left "mainstream" LGBT political groups and only work with smaller more grass roots organizations.

It sad really what is happening. And if you think I mean HRC decisions, you would be wrong. What is sad, is that ANY time we have had the oppertunity to "get" something done it backfires. Instead of staying and changing things we errupt in emtion and anger at everything.

Instead of working to alter the system and build up our power base to make real change, we get pissed about the whole thing and turning what could be joy, into crap.

So what do you suggest we all do, those who are angery about this? Not vote in Democrates in the next election? Allow the Repubs to take over? Demand that HRC rip itself apart to chage itself? Demand people not support HRC at all, forever? Stand there screaming and throwing a tantrum?

How about support what we have, but work to change it? Don't bail out and hope your leaving will cause people to reconsider their opinions and ideals. Because it will not change a thing. In fact it makes it worse, because it eliminates your voice from the decision making process. Its like me saying, "I refuse to vote because LGBT citizens don't have equal rights!!!" Does the next president care? No they do not.

I would ask Donna Rose to reconsider her decission, but if she is unable to stay due to emotions, than I ask some one else to please step up and take her place. We need that voice.

I see this over and over again. I can see Dobson smiling as he reads about this and Falwell laughing in hell. Work together people or we will never be free. 1. Join your local LGBT rights group 2. write an angery letter to your (paper, senator, the HRC, etc) 3. but don't withdrawl from the process altogether 4. above all, get involved don't just blog about it   

 



nothing new at this time.....

also (part II)

Just to let everyone who may be angery about what I said know. I wrote both HRC and my senator to let them know I was not happy about the changes to ENDA. I did this as the leader of my student group so thats 200 indivduals letting those working on this know why this needs to be changed.

I've made sure that everyone I know is educated about this issue and encourage them to write as well, even helping draft letters.

I've even contacted my city's community relations board to ask that they issue an offical letter of support for the original ENDA (not that hard for me, since my husband heads the board).

I've also asked the other LGBT groups in my area to help out. 

What have you done? 



nothing new at this time.....

[ Parent ]
Tantrums
Well said Matt!  Like you, I support equal rights and protections for ALL of us.  But, I'm not about to throw a tantrum, pick up my toys, go home, and refuse to play with the other kids ever again.  I plan on doing everything possible to make needed changes and voice my disapproval whenever necessary; including letting HRC, an organization I intend to keep supporting, know how I feel.  I'm not about to give our enemies any more fodder than they already have.

[ Parent ]
The transgender narrative is all our narrative

I feel passionately ,  i connect dots.. 

lesbian , gay, bi, we are all trans ---- gendered outlaws who do not conform to gender expectations.  WE are ONE and the same . The TG narrative is our narrative. Its all on a continuim.  From here we go to unity ...intransigent UNITY.  Our community has spoken. the "T" is now and forever a part of us.

  the 5% of us that might question this...look in your hearts - do you pass as straight ? Those who would be politically practical. Look at our country , its not gotten us very far - and i am talkng broad justice issues beyond just the LGBTs.  We will remain united..maybe its good this ugly secret was finally revealed the truth hurts , but like an infected wound it needed to be lanced..WE will rise up , stronger, more loving, more united..Its gonna be OK. 

 

It will be okay.  In fact its good , we know these painful truths. Our future is bright - we are in for the long haul and in the end we will win full and complete equality and not by throwing any of us off the bus.  Crisis = opportunity.  Be Proud, be loud, and never ever give up. I just got off the phone with my Post Op best gal pal - she has no internet. She is deeply depressed due to life stresses and it was good to report to her what has been going down on line. She also has way too much faith in most of the Dems..(i am working on that with her) but to tell her that the community is united. That 5% of us that might not get it...well they are the minority..they will not be our voice.  That information , may have saved her life today. SERIOUSLY. She is in great physical pain, has labored yrs for the cause during the yrs T inclusion was in question..She always showed up. She was heartened to hear this, through her intense physical and emotional pain..she is almost 60 ..its been a long road for her. We see its all about gender and those who would to any degree go outside the Ozzie and Harriet model. 

Thank you Pam, thank you Blenders...  

  Thank you all for this unity and that goes for our straight but not narrow friends.  



"The transgender narrative is all our narrative" - indeed

The first sermon I ever preached was on this.

There is a social backlash to any gender transgression, whether it be transsexual transition, "unsanctioned" gender choice of a life partner, or working in a profession where one's gender is under-represented.  

Male nurse? Must be gay. Female cop or soldier? Must be a dyke.

Look at how short her hair is. Look at the way he walks.

But God's creation is not uniform (walk through any forest and look for the solid-yellow or solid-blue flowerbeds) and the Bible constantly shows God choosing the unusual person for special tasks. (Forgive me, I'm a seminarian.)

If anything, employers should be seeking us out, but their blindness is instead causing us hardship - all of us, no matter how we color outside the lines society has drawn.

The transgender narrative is not only the transgender narrative.

The transgender narrative is not only the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer, and questioning narrative.

The transgender narrative is the narrative of every person who has ever ignored a gender boundary in how we dress, love, work, or play. And that is very nearly everyone.

 

 






Claim to fame: Posted first PHB diary to be demoted


[ Parent ]
CindiK,
you're the best.

[ Parent ]
HRC direction?
All of this has me re-thinking my monthly contribution to HRC.  They will support the lesbian side on my personality but not the TG part.   HMMMM.

Rift

I think the one thing I hate the most about this rift in our community right now is Porno Pete and those like him getting a big kick out of our in-fighting.  Personally, I want to make their lives a living Hell, by continuing to make legislative gains for all of us--gays, lesbians, bisexuals, AND TRANSGENDERED.



It's about credibility, Joe
Dear Mr. Solmonese,

Thank you for the explanation - at long last - about the HRC's silence during the first days after the news about split ENDA broke.  It is nice to finally get some sort of information.

Unfortunately, neither that information nor any explanation of political strategy can change the fact that you made statements recently that completely contradict the HRC's new "political strategy."  You said one thing very strongly, Joe, and you did something completely different.  That's called lying, and while it's bad enough to ruin your own personal credibility, you have ruined the credibility of what is supposed to be one of the greatest GLBT rights organization in our nation.  When are you going to address that?  When will you publicly admit what all of us know - that you broke your word?

When will you step down and allow someone with real credibility to work on restoring the damage you have done to the HRC?  Because you have caused huge damage, Joe, by saying one thing and doing something completely different.  You lied, whether you intended to or not, and that isn't going to just go away, because everyone knows that it happened.  (See the quotes below in case you've forgotten what you said.)  George W. Bush has a habit of saying one thing when the truth is clearly entirely different and then pretending there's nothing wrong, and nobody wants that behavior as the HRC's public face.  The HRC needs your experience and passion, but it also leads credible leadership, and you don't fit that description any more.

With a heavy heart,

Kelly M


Joe Solmonese at Southern Comfort Conference:
"What I would say is that we try to walk a thin line in terms of keeping everything in play and making sure that we move forward, but always being clear that we absolutely do not support - and in fact oppose - any legislation that is not absolutely inclusive, and we have sent that message loud and clear to the Hill."

Joe Solmonese at Jena 6 demonstration:
"Remember when George Bush was governor of Texas?  Well, Governor Bush had a hate crimes bill on his desk. There was a lot of pressure to sign the bill because of what they did to James Byrd.  So, George Bush said he'd sign that bill, but they had to take the gays out.

And here's what happened.  Stella Byrd, who has just buried her beaten, broken, gentle James said, If some of us are left out, then all of us are.  Valuing one life and not valuing another is not right.  And the Byrd family said No. They said No. And they walked away. "

So, I stand here today with solidarity. I stand here for social justice. I stand here to free those young men. To say this will not stand. It cannot stand. I stand here for the Jena 6. I stand here today for James Byrd.

 

We will not forget. We will never walk away."



Transgender a diverse group

"Transgender is not simply the 'T' in GLBT. It is people who, for one reason or another, may not express their gender in ways that conform to traditional gender norms or expectations. That covers everyone from transsexuals, to queer youth, to feminine acting men, to masculine appearing women. It is a broad label that cannot be confined to a specific silo of people."

I know that it took me far too long to understand that very important point.

Many years ago, I volunteered at a gay & lesbian center and one of the evenings I worked regularly was the one on which the  transgender support group was held. I met many transgender folks with very diverse life and work situations.

One young lady was absolutely beautiful and no one would image that she was born a boy. She had a good job working as a legal assistant, was popular and had a great relationship with her parents. I have to admit that I enjoyed her company due to her charm and very "real" feminine qualities.

On the flip side, another trans woman had very masculine features and struggled to live as a woman. At one point, she was living in her car and unemployed. Her family had completely rejected her. Sadly, I was too superficial at the time to befriend her. I regret that now.

Both of these women had undergone sex change surgery. Both were legally women. Yet, one would probably never be able to achieve totally fair housing and employment because of her appearance.

Legislation is needed to fix these inequities.



When you look for the bad in mankind, expecting to find it, you surely will.

- Abraham Lincoln.


Sadly I peeled my HRC sticker
  Sadly, this afternoon before I even got in my car to drive home, I peeled off the HRC equal sign that has graced the back glass of my car for these several years, (now you know why I put my decals on the glass rather than the paint). I folded it up and I intend to mail it to the HRC with a brief explanation as to why I'm doing it. I won't block their email as spam yet but I'm very close to that. I've already informed them that I can't in good conscience support them financially anymore ofter that ridiculously ambiguous email about how they don't support, (rather than oppose), a non-inclusive ENDA bill. The hate crimes law included gender identity, why not ENDA? I will rejoin the HRC when they support all humans' rights.

something I do not understand...

why does ENDA have to be written the way it is?  Why can't it just be something simple like "It is unlawful to discriminate or terminate any individual for any non-work related actions or incidents."  Protect everyone.

So in an earlier post, I mentioned that I had never met a T.  But my Grandmother in law has and it is kind of a cute story...

My partner took his grandmother to a restaurant here in Houston that has a T server.  She very politely said to the server "honey, I don't mean to be rude or anything, but are you a boy or a girl?"  As soon as she said "Sweetie, I'm in transition," Kevin's grandmother said "good for you - take life by the balls...and enjoy it while you have it" and they both had a good laugh.  Now here is why I wrote that story out.  If my grandmother-in-law who was raised on a farm and literally given away to another farmer at the of 13 as a wife and then had five kids in rapid succession and was widowed by the age of 19 and then went on with her "middle America" life has no problems being inclusive, then why do we (the G community, America, Congress, et al)?

But here is the bigger point...America does not need to be ready for inclusivesness.  Job discrimination is just that - job discrimination - and no one (NO ONE) should be allowed to be fired for something other than a work related issue.

Just my .02



Ahtilla

I'm not liking my own community so much these days?
I'm not trans, I don't do drag, and I'm married to a furry masculine gay man. We don't go to bars, have as many straight friends as gay friends, and  are out at work and to our families.  I'm having a real identity crisis over this. Not only I do feel that transpeople are part of my community,  I am shocked that people I normally like are abandoning ship. 

This is what Clinton did to us. He decided that we weren't important enough to expend capital on, though by all accounts he's gay positive and reasonable.  I would rather keep struggling than ignore the people who need ENDA most of all. 
Who are we if we can do this?



Minority View
Respectfully to all, I would suggest that none of us are happy with this irrational right wing response to transgendered folk, but this anger at HRC is letting the perfect be the enemy of the good. 

well, it is not just what they are doing..
It's how they are doing it.  It is sneaky, dishonest...

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If Donna gave up on them, there's no reason for any T-person to give them the time of day.

The T community and HRC have been on bad footing for years.  It was only about 3 years ago that we finally started trying to work together. Donna was the one who had the unenviable position of being the connection to the T community.  And while she and I have different views on many things, she's been fighting for three years to make the HRC recognize that T people are part of the group.  She's tenacious, to say the least.

If she's gotten this fed up...it's worse than any of us think.  They can just take the word "transgender" off of their literature.



I don't understand...

... why all the rancor against HRC after they have begun campaigning for the trans-inclusive version of ENDA?

Is it because they delayed for a few days? What is wrong with their current position? I did have a problem with their silence from Thursday last week until Tuesday this week, and considered taking the equal sign off my car. But their announcement Wednesday seemed to resume support for the trans-inclusive version. What am I missing here?



Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls


The devil is in the details

I don't think that there is any question that the HRC would prefer to pass a trans-inclusive ENDA.  Now that there is a temporary reprieve, they are doing what they can to rally the troops and try to save trans-inclusion.  Most of the HRC folks really do have the right goal in mind.

 BUT...

 They have been very careful to avoid saying that they actually oppose passage of a trans-exclusive ENDA.  The support trans inclusion, and they are opposed to removing gender identity from ENDA, but they have very specifically not said that they will oppose the passage of an ENDA that doesn't include gender identity.  They are encouraging people to tell their representatives to support a trans-inclusive ENDA, but they are not enocuraging people to tell their representatives to oppose a trans-exclusive ENDA.

 It's very clever word-smithing so they can avoid taking a firm stand that might limit their options, and when ENDA goes for markup in about a month, the HRC can say "well gosh, we sure did try, but it didn't pan out, so let's just take what we can." 

 The fact that Joe Solmonese just told us a few weeks ago that the HRC would oppose any legislation that was not absolutely inclusive was apparently a complete misrepresentation of HRC policy, and that - perhaps more than the misguided strategy of so-called "pragmatism" and "incrementalism" - is what pisses off some of us.



[ Parent ]
Essentially
HRC is lying by omission.  They've been in DC for so long that political-speak is all they know how to talk.  It's not what they ARE saying to the public (in order to keep milking the cash cow), it's what they AREN'T saying to Congress.  They should be saying loud and clear: "DON'T PASS A NON-TRANSINCLUSIVE BILL BECAUSE WE AND NO ONE WE REPRESENT WANTS IT ENACTED!"

[ Parent ]
More...
and if it's now up to us (by HRC's reckoning) to get transgender put back into ENDA, just why the hell do we need HRC?  Isn't that one of the things they're supposed to be doing?

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