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Ugliness in DC black Baptist church - outing email campaign by homophobic choir member

by: Pam Spaulding

Wed Jan 30, 2008 at 20:15:00 PM EST


"I will be leaving the choir at the top of the year because 80 percent of the tenors are homosexuals and act more like a female in choir rehearsal than I do."
-- female choir member of the DC-based Greater Mount Calvary Holy Church in an e-mail to Bishop Alfred Owens Jr. She then proceeded to out more than 100 church members by sending the names to a Yahoo church group.
If you need any further evidence of the pathology of homophobia in the black church, here is something that will make your blood boil.

Already fearful of losing connections, friendship and emotional shelter provided by their faith community if they come out, black gays and lesbians in the church now know that the homophobes in the pews and choirs, along with the bigoted pastors spewing hate from the pulpit, feel empowered to destroy those ties because of their own fear and ignorance. It makes you want to weep. It. Must. Stop. (Lou Chibbaro @ the Washington Blade):

One of Washington's largest black Baptist churches was rocked by a female member of its choir who sent separate e-mail messages to the pastor in December and January outing more than 100 church members as gay, mostly male choir members.

...The e-mail, sent in December, identifies about 45 fellow church members as gay. She sent a second e-mail to Owens on Jan. 2 identifying another 62 church members as gay.

"The following people I am asking you to monitor very closely and my prayer is that you will sit them down from their ministries," she told Owens in the December e-mail. "Because they are ushering in the presence of sin, lies, a spirit of homosexuality and sexual spirits."

She sent a copy of her e-mails to a Yahoo list group that goes to more than 300 church members, the gay former church member said.

Bishop Owens, by the way, is notorious for his anti-gay views, sermons, and advocacy of ex-gay therapy, so the emailer had no fear of being reprimanded for her actions. This is what he said in April 2006 in a sermon. You can listen to the unhinged recording here.
"It takes real men to confess Jesus as Lord and Savior," Owens said in the sermon, which was recorded by the church. "I'm not talking about no faggot or no sissy...Wait a minute! Let all the real men come on down here and take a bow. All the real men-I'm talking about the straight men," he preached. "You ain't funny and you ain't cranky, but you're straight. Come on down here and walk around and praise God that you are straight. Thank him that you're straight. All the straight men that's proud to be a Christian, that's proud to be a man of God."
So, what do you think Owens did as a result of that email? He called the various choirs of the 7,000-member church together and offered to help those outed by showing them how they could pray-away the gay, since the Calvary's web site has twice monthly outreach sessions listed called "Breaking the Chains of Homosexuality," led by Minister Dennis Sawyers.

A response by the National Black Justice Coalition is after the jump.

Pam Spaulding :: Ugliness in DC black Baptist church - outing email campaign by homophobic choir member
One of the publications put out by the NBJC is a "Guide To Welcoming Congregations in the African-American Tradition," which helps traditional black churches navigate the process of supporting its gay and lesbian parishioners.
Sylvia Rhue, director of the National Black Justice Coalition's religious affairs program and a licensed clinical therapist with a doctorate in human sexuality, said she was troubled but not surprised to hear that a large number of gays continue to join and worship at a church like Greater Mount Calvary.

"We know that many of the gays that go there like the traditional setting of a church like that," she said. "It tears at your soul. It has the potential of causing depression, drug use and other harmful effects."

The obvious question is why, if there are gay-affirming churches out there, do closeted black gays and lesbians remain in homophobic churches. I've heard from several who have written me to say that it's not that simple -- the church is the cultural home -- these are their friends, relatives, and neighbors in church. To leave it and seek out the LGBT community oftentimes means severing all ties to their previous connections because of rejection and what they face may be trading one level of social oppression for another.

It's hard enough to be gay, but to be black and gay in the predominantly white out gay community is often difficult in its own way, culturally and spiritually. Feeling marginalized, largely without ready institutional support, is what makes the process of coming out a gamble many black gay men and lesbians of faith aren't ready to take.

***

On April 24-26, the National Black Justice Coalition will provide an antidote to the hateful events above at its annual gathering, The Power of Us National Convention. It will highlight black LGBT couples, families, high profile activists, religious and spiritual leaders, organizers, artists, and designers. The conference brochure is here.

The aim is to break down walls of homophobia and racism by educating the public of the vibrant, affirming and supportive lives of black LGBT activists. These men, women and youth are committed to developing and honing their skills, celebrating socioeconomic/political victories, building communities, and being inspired by preeminent visionaries of the progressive movement towards social justice and equality.

NBJC is expecting between 500-1000 people to attend the conference from all over the United States and other countries. Attendees represent all sectors and demographic groups in our movement, including young and senior activists, organizers and activists of color, staff members at LGBT political and/or community organizations, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex advocates and straight allies, and leaders of campus communities.  

Barack Obama has earned both praise and scorn for trying to navigate this religious and LGBT rights minefield, most recently earning praise for his speech to a predominantly black crown at Ebenezer Baptist Church in Atlanta in celebration of Dr. Martin Luther King's birthday.

A flashback to the rocky road traveled:
* Obama addresses homophobia, anti-Semitism and xenophobia in MLK Ebenezer Baptist Church speech
* Barack Obama: A Call for Full Equality
* Obama addresses black homophobia and HIV/AIDS at presidential forum
* Why is Obama touring with 'ex-gay' homophobe Donnie McClurkin?
* Black media ignores the Obama / anti-gay recloseted McClurkin controversy* McClurkin hangs tough at Obama concert

***

UPDATE: Darian of Living Out Loud, who received copies of the original emails sent to Owens, puts into perspective why this hate the pastor foments from his pulpit must cease, and how the subject of homophobia must continue to be addressed -- out in the open -- to support change:

How dare he discredit the spiritual relationship between God and gay and lesbian believers! The don't ask don't tell policy and the hypocrisy in the black church is getting old really fast.

What is this man's fascination with homosexuality? Google his name and almost every entry is linked to a homophobic statement or sermon he's made over the years. But yet gays and lesbians still flock to his church. If this e-mail and Bishop's actions aren't enough for them to either speak up or leave then I don't know what it will take.

I'm sure this post will find it's way back to Greater Mount Calvary and possibly Bishop's desk and I want you (Bishop Owens) and your congregation to know that it's a new day. For every gay and lesbian person who willingly shows up for your abuse and suffers in silence, there are those like myself who are not afraid to speak up and claim their inheritance in Christ.

The church has historically been a refuge for all black people not just heterosexual blacks. You have turned Greater Mount Calvary into a hotbed of oppression for your gay and lesbian members and you should be ashamed! No one deserves to be singled-out and mistreated like you've done to your gay members. You may never be able to fully comprehend the damage you've done to people who lifted you up only to be torn down in return.

UPDATE 2: dnA has an interesting take on this that is little discussed:
I've always believed that homophobia in the black community, especially given its pervasiveness in the West Indies, has come from slavemasters raping their male slaves. Keep in mind that has nothing to do with sex; it's about power. It hasn't been written about much, but if you think about it that phenomenon is something it is within both the white community and the black community's interests to keep secret.

Thoughts?

I think it's fair to say that if race and homophobia are already a third rail topics for blacks and whites, it's a certainty that tackling the legacy of male slave rape and its possible impact on black masculinity, sexuality and cultural norms  would be nearly impossible for people. The pact of silence about this, particularly for all men in a homophobic society, has to be kept on some level. Men of any culture are not affirmed for embracing anything that counters heteronormativity.

I receive heated emails from blacks who simply do not want me to "air dirty laundry" about the homophobia in the black church; this pathology is killing our people as HIV spreads because of the silence, ignorance and bigotry. The white evangelical homobigots poisoning our culture get plenty of attention here on the Blend - hate is wrong, but it's particularly sad to see it perpetrated by groups subjected to prejudice.

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Well if that's the WORST thing that ever happens to her...
Thumbs up the the Washington Blade article. Very insightful in regard to the situation at hand, as well as the situation at large.

And very precise as well. Apparently the female from the AO Chorale who outed them says that 90.9% of the tenors in Sanctuary choir are homosexual and 99.9% of all the tenors in Celebration Choir are homosexual.

This woman has gaydar that measures to the tenth of a percent.


Good Lord....
This Owens man obviously needs a few good "God teachings" himself if thats the way he thinks. God save him.

"It makes you want to weep."
No it doesn't.

letters to the pastor
I wonder how many emails the pastor has got about adulterers in the congregation.  

This is a prime example
Of the rampant homo bashing I see so much of in the Black community.  It is also why I fear Obama would not be able to help my homo brethren.  He's trapped right in the middle of the pack.  Will he risk his church's condemnation by supporting the Sodomites?

For the record, as noted by Phelps, Blacks are not alone in their insane hate mongering, but I honestly believe (from personal contact with many in my Black community) the problem  of homo bashing is much worse in the Black community.

Pam might be able to add something from her experiences.

Enjoy

Mom always told me I was special and I believed her.


Obama's church flys rainbow flag
And he speaks out against homophobia.  That's a start, better than Hillary.  Not one mention of LGBT people on her website.

[ Parent ]
Let's be a bit more fair to Hillary
Don't get me wrong. I don't like Hillary, but to say he's better than Hillary on LGBT issues isn't really fair. His record is much thinner than hers is and they both scored the same on HRC's report card.

What gives me indigestion about Hillary is that she has made promises to the LGBT community and hasn't delivered on them. We swooned over her in New York when she ran for Senator. We gave her money, time, and most importantly votes. She returned the favor by not leading on LGBT issues. Sure, she votes pro-gay almost 90% of the time earning her a solid "B," but that's not leading.

Never try to train a pig. It's a waste of time and it annoys the pig.


[ Parent ]
HRC report cards,
  After the ENDA debacle, How much credit should we give these.  After all, the HRC said it would give negative grades to representatives that voted against a non-inclusive ENDA.

 And I am not one that still believes the HRC has any credibility any how.

If I make sense? it was quite by accident.


[ Parent ]
That's a different subject
But all in all Obama's record on LGBT issues is pretty thin overall. Yes he sponsored two pro-gay bills in the Illinois legislature, but neither of those bills made it out of committee. That hasn't kept his campaign from taking credit for the one that did eventually get passed even though it doesn't have his name on it.

Obama and Clinton are roughly equal on LGBT issues. Neither have been anti-gay, neither have been leaders. Obama has said some encouraging things recently that help him in my eyes such as standing up in Ebeneezer Baptist Church and decrying homophobia, but that doesn't rise to the level it would take for me to forgive him for McClurkin. That being said, I'll have less indigestion voting for Obama in the general than I would if Clinton gets the nomination.

Never try to train a pig. It's a waste of time and it annoys the pig.


[ Parent ]
Indigestion? We're getting GERD in Iowa.
...and it isn't from Clinton. We have our governor to thank for that. First, he has his little temper tantrum and vows to call a special session to amend the state constitution if a certain court case doesn't go his way (http://www.365gay.com/Newscon08/01/012208iowa.htm),

then comes word that he won't attend The LGBT Governor's Conference (http://www.dmcityview.com/skinny.shtml).

I suppose he's unhappy because after granting us some civil rights last year, we have the temerity to insist on more.  Well, I'm unhappy I voted for him.


"More than half of modern culture depends on what one shouldn't read." -- Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest


[ Parent ]
Obama and gays
He's walked the line about as well as he could under these circumstances, given the silence on this topic within the community. Speaking out is only the first step, however, and you see how politically charged walking the line is for both communities. I don't see how he could please such polar opposite audiences given the lack of dialogue by nationally respected figures on this topic.

There's no easy answer, but what is also a factor is the constant clash between the religious and secular gay communities, since many LGBTs are estranged from their faith communities, are atheist, agnostic or simply non-practicing, there is a further bit of isolation that those coming out face.  


[ Parent ]
Tragedy of not voting
Religious or secular gay communities.  On the Signorile show yesterday, there were former Edwards callers who were not going to vote at all.
It is important that we LGBT's vote for either candidate to avoid another GOP president.  Which ever candidate wins in the primary, Obama or Hillary, we must support and put our difference behind us.

[ Parent ]
I don't see Obama as anti-gay
How he handled the McClurkin thing really pissed me off though and it tells me that if he has to compromise it won't be in our favor.

I'm not voting for either Obama or Clinton in the primary, but I won't have any problem voting for Obama in the general. I can't say the same for Clinton.

Never try to train a pig. It's a waste of time and it annoys the pig.


[ Parent ]
Not necessarily Anti gay
As far as Obama being Anti-gay, that is completely false, I am Gay man and I met him at a Washington dc Luxury Hotel and i have to say that I was well received. But publicly he is walking a political tight rope.

[ Parent ]
Ugly Homophobia Not Limited to Blacks or Black Churches
It's important to point out as we discuss this that Ugly Homophobia Is Not Limited to Blacks or Black Churches  It's a characteristic of many Christian churches working from a Christian bible, and many other religions as well.

Obviousman to the rescue!
in response to Obviouswoman of that DC church.
"at least 80% of the tenors are gay"....ONLY 80%??...Next this woman will be reporting breathlessly that the sun rose in the east this morning.

Who do you think fills up the Focus on the Family Exodus "ex-gay" conferences? 98% whites, 2% blacks, at the one held locally.


[ Parent ]
what a crying, fu**ing shame.
Some churches, not all, are sending a message that runs completly opposite to the message of Christ.
It broke my heart to divorce the church I grew up in. It was a knife to the soul that had to be removed before I could heal. It's like leaving an abusive parent times ten. It's a shame. I try not to do the shame thing too much, but that is what it is. The sheep really don't understand the message they are sending to their brothers and sisters. The message is, you are less than and we hate you. Dress it up however you wish, that is the message. There are plenty of good Christian people who are confused on this issue. I think with time, they will get it. The rest are lost. And this coming from the black church is especially offensive, wrong, ironic.  

http://EQFL.org

Who's the outer?
somebody out the outer email sender....how does she get off scot free?

I don't think she needs outing...
....everyone already knows she's a bitch.

[ Parent ]
Why protect the outer?
Why isn't the author of the email being named?  She's the one who started this sh1tstorm and has no reasonable expectation of privacy given she blast-emailed a bunch of names.

I continue to fail to have sympathy
just as I would fail to have sympathy for jews who were upset at being discovered because they really liked attending Young Aryan rallies.

If these people choose to participate in these churches they deserve what they get.

I feel sorry for the gay kids who are brought there by their parents, but not adults who are actually supporting the bigotry that oppressed them.

Get a new church, and grow up


It's not that simple
There are strong cultural and family bonds that keep them where they are. I'll bet a large majority of the men she outed grew up in that church coming there as small children with their parents and grandparents and maybe even great grandparents. It's more or less an open secret since for many as it's difficult to hide especially as they become adults. Their families know, their friends know, even the pastor knows, but it's kept quiet because it's not something to be discussed in polite company.

What should really happen is the pastor should recognize the contributions these men have made to his church and his congregation, he should apologize to each and every one of them personally, and denounce hatred in any form including anti-gay hatred. That is what would be consistent with the teachings of Jesus. However he chose instead to do the opposite and that is indeed sad. I imagine many of the men she outed will leave that church and they will all be poorer for it.


Never try to train a pig. It's a waste of time and it annoys the pig.


[ Parent ]
Also worth pointing out...
...that participating in these choral groups was apparently actually a way to connect with a community of gay black men.  And to participate with others in an artistic endeavor which they all obviously enjoy.

"Our Liberties We Prize and Our Rights We Will Maintain" -- Iowa state motto

[ Parent ]
Source of homophobia in the black church / culture
I've always believed that homophobia in the black community, especially given its pervasiveness in the West Indies, has come from slavemasters raping their male slaves.

Perhaps.  But since most rape was male-female, that may not be a complete explanation.

I think that another source may have been the slavemasters emasculating their male slaves.  Removing their power and calling them "Boy" (which extended well beyond emancipation) and eliminating their ability to serve as the man of their family may have resulted in an overemphasis on sex roles and in the assertion of masculinity to an extreme.  I think that possibly may also be seen in the devaluing of women and the over-sexualized imagery in much of hip-hop culture.

On the other hand, it may be a bit reaching of either of us to attribute current social responses to a situation - though a very significant one - that ended over 150 years ago.  I'm not a socialogist and I'm just guessing here.


Tim from <a href="http://washingtondc.nyctourist.com">washington dc</a>
the thing about that is, it probably stems more from the simple conflict between religion, and homosexuality, that is to say that the christian religious indoctrination that slavery bred also bred a fear of homesexuality.

-Tim from
washington


[ Parent ]
When something like this happens
There's usually a back story. It's not like 100 gay men suddenly appeared in the choirs and I seriously doubt it was really much of a secret.

I find myself wondering if this woman is single and she was husband hunting in the choir only to find most of the eligible bachelors are gay.

Never try to train a pig. It's a waste of time and it annoys the pig.


7 years and counting
of the gay bashing enabling Bush Administration...that would be the back story.
GLBT citizens become more visible = counter regressive reaction by the homophobes.

[ Parent ]
Occam's razor
I think it's simpler than that. Someone doesn't go off like that as an individual unless it's personal. If it was Bush and the bashing rethugs, there would have been an organized group of people who would have brought it to the attention of the pastor.

I have zero experience with black churches but I do have some experience with religious group culture being a former Southern Baptist deacon. There's a lot more tolerance than you might think. Most of the time the heads of the church will look the other way as long as no one makes any waves and that seems to be what was going on in this congregation until she set off the tsunami.

Never try to train a pig. It's a waste of time and it annoys the pig.


[ Parent ]
Seriously, the unhappy outed choir members
ought to check out the DC Unity Fellowship Church (denomination founded by gay black pastor, services are very traditional Gospel services), or see if there's an inclusive mostly black UCC (we have one such in our town, it just might have THE BEST nonprofessional choir/ chorus in town), or try one of the local MCCs, or an Episcopal-not-"Anglican" inclusive congregation.

It's seriously difficult to leave one's family's church home - but such a course would be spiritually healthy for both the gay person AND their family, who need to wake up already.


Sylvia Rhue of NBJC religion outreach is a great speaker.


Still No Pass For Obama
I'm still not ready to give Obama a pass for his saying that he could not support gay marriage because of his religion. His religion, at least as of this writing, is UCC, or Disciples of Christ. It is the official and well-known position of the UCC that it supports gay marriage.
So what religion is he talking about?
The man is terrified, as are many black (and for that matter, white) males that if he clearly supports LGBTs, somebody will think he's a fag.
Hillary may not be your candidate, but as a woman, at least she doesn't carry around all that macho fear that most males have of teh gay.

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