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'Christian' family accused of killing their child

by: Pam Spaulding

Thu Jan 25, 2007 at 16:00:00 PM EST


Kimberly Forder was a stay-at-home mom and her husband Robert was a painter. The Forders had the reputation of a "happy, religious family that moved to Africa to pursue Christian missionary work." They home-schooled their eight adopted children.

There was something else going on in that home, and it was straight out of hell -- the Forder's eight-year-old child Christopher, ended up dead on the bedroom floor. This sadly familiar tale of the publicly pious Christian one-man, one-woman headed family gone horribly wrong comes to us from the Kitsap Sun in Washington State. Blender Gary said the press conference was held two blocks from his house.

As 8-year-old Christopher Forder lay on his bedroom floor, stricken with pneumonia, heavily bruised and nearing death, his father called a family meeting.

Inside the family's Seabeck-area home, the father, Robert, told his seven children they had a choice: They could bury their brother in the backyard, or call 911 and risk having the state snatch all of the children away because of Christopher's obvious bruising.

The account of Christopher's last moments is contained in court documents alleging that his mother, 44-year-old Kimberly Forder, abused and neglected her son to the point of death, never seeking outside medical help as his pneumonia grew worse.

This wasn't a  one-time event. The court records show a pattern of abuse, hidden from authorities. Both parents say they are innocent of the charges, claiming the boy had bruising from undiagnosed reactive detachment disorder -- basically they are saying the kid scratched and picked at his skin, and hurt himself by throwings his body against walls. Of course that doesn't explain why the child died from pneumonia. It also doesn't explain this:
One child told detectives that Christopher was beaten an average of six times a day. It was alleged Kimberly Forder was the primary disciplinarian.

If he didn't chew his food correctly, his mother would take away his food, sometimes for days at a time, documents allege. The boy resorted to stealing scraps from a compost heap, and eating dog food.

If the boy soiled himself, he was forced to wear the dirty diaper, sometimes on his head. If he didn't wash his clothes correctly in a 5-gallon bucket, his parents were accused of dunking his head in the dirty water "until he stopped struggling," court documents said.


 
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No Outcry
From Christian groups, I wager...

Hypocrites. My heart goes out to this child. At least he is done suffering at the hands of this monster family.

If these 'parents' - using the term loosely - ever get the other children back, that would be yet another crime.


And we're not fit to be parents???
This world is freakin' insane!!!

I'm only going to say this 999,998 more times.
Some people doen't deserve family.

Gay youth thrown out of their homes.  Children abused and murdered.

Dangit, considering what anyone has to go thru to adopt, adopted children especially ought to feel, they should be secure, wanted and cared for.

Lacking any more information I'm going to guess these children were brouight back from Africa, as souvenirs.


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They're back
Plus 3 they adopted in Liberia. The wife, of course, had already been arrested. The husband took off and the kids were sent to Washington state.

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I bet the Catholic adoption agency
Would have no problem adopting to this family.  Spare the rod, and all of that.

Jeebus Fundies, keep bashing me if you need to, but leave the kids
alone.  I can take it, I may even give back as good as I get - but you fucking bullies always need someone weaker than you.

I'm sure Focus on the Anus will be posting something soon on their website.


Most fundies...
...would say that the problem with religious people who "go bad" is they aren't religious enough.  So the "cure" is more god...

(needless to say, the god they love so much isn't the wimpy god of "love", but the all-powerful, smiting, hateful god of punishment and retribution...)

Just like their views on "Conservatism", in the fundnut world religion never fails - it is failed by weak practitioners...
 


Great minds, Mike!
I posted a similar thought over at another blog (https://www2.blogger...). 

It went like this:

Fundamentalists, at least the ones I grew up with, view the world as always on the attack against them. Anything bad that happens to them is the fault of some external, and probably, demonic force. This has been used by the fundamentalist leaders in everything from stirring fear over Muslims to gays to immigrants.

However, that same view doesn't apply to the Others of our society who have harm visited on them, whether through discrimination, a hate crime, or some other incident. In fact, from a fundamentalist perspective, even if they are ones instigating the above mentioned discrimination or hatred, it's the fault of the individual sinner, not the Christian simply following the dictates of a vengeful, angry god.


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Demonic forces
Anything bad that happens to them is the fault of some external, and probably, demonic force.

I can't tell you how many times I have heard that reasoning. For example: one of my sisters is a missionary in Africa. One time she was travelling to another village to give a Sunday sermon when the bus went off the road. (Fortunately she wasn't hurt.) According to her, the reason for the accident wasn't because of bad roads or carelessness by the driver. It was, she claimed, caused by Satan who was trying to prevent her from reaching the village to preach the 'holy' word. And this wasn't the first time that she accused Satan of alledgedly making bad things happen around her.

Ironically, when she talks about the local beliefs in magic, she scoffs about them being superstitious.


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Stephanie,
believing that "Satan crashed the bus" is infantile.  An infant believes that the world is their world.  Ask an parent.  So, a seeming adult who believes that they're the central character, with buses being crashed by Satan and God intervening with roadside assistance, is equally infantile.  Such a narrative plumps up their importance.  In such a mind, the gods wage war through her. 

Such arrested development is pretty common and manifests, to a lesser degree, in such statements as, "Well, I'm sure there's a reason.  Everything happens for a reason."

"Everything happens for a reason" suggests that God is alert and has His hand on the joystick.

Alas, God might be snoozing on the couch and when God naps, He sleeps for eons.


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That reminds me!
I have a lady in my office that everytime something bad happens (flat tires, running out of gas, power got cut off, etc.) it's the devil trying to "lay claim to her life."  If someone gets short with her or insist she do something (like her job!), she says "that person is full of the devil."

Now, don't get me wrong, I like the lady, but I'm also pretty easy to get along with (despite my occasional attitude here).  However, I'm sure if I questioned her beliefs that I'd be "full of the devil" too.

Thank goodness she doesn't know I'm gay or she'd probably be trying to have an intercession.


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Poison
I can't remember the quote or who said it, but there is a saying about how some substances in some amounts cure, but in greater amounts the same substance will poison.  I think this is the case as well.  If you take any theology or philosophy and follow it blindly, it leads you to a dark, inhuman place.  Early philosophers spoke of balance, and the need to guard against excess, and this story speaks to that as much as anything.

They probably took some chapter or verse out of context ("dasheth the little ones' heads against the stones," anyone?) and followed it blindly, because if you do what the Bible says then you are a good Christian.  Any decent student of religion will tell you the Bible is about humankind's relationship to God: it is not intended to be a law book for the ages (do you think half of the people in the Bronze Age had time to really think about the future, aside from the day to day issues of survival?), it is not a science text book, and it is not a child rearing book.


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Suffer the little children to come unto me?


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Meanwhile, Ken Hutchie-son is so busy worrying about taking
away rights from gay Washingtonians that he couldn't possibly consider looking at some of the activities of fellow "Christians."

This story absolutely disgusts me. In my opinion, the State should recommend these parents meet their Maker quickly, and face the child they so horribly tortured to death.

These are the kinds of stories that make me think that if ANY law should be passed, it should be restricting adoption by fucking lunatics - heterosexuality does not automatically make for good parenting. Of course we all know that - but straight people refuse to be lumped in with fellow members of their own demographic when these stories unfold. They alone are to be considered based on "individual actions" while we are lumped together as a fucking single-minded group.

Well, this crap should be thrown into the face of every wingnut fundie asshole every time they open their pie hole - followed by intense questioning about their amazing lack of investigation skills when it comes to looking over their own "religion."


Forder kids...
Hmmmm...out of 8 Forder kids one is dead, seemingly from abuse and neglect and another sits in jail.  The charges you ask.  Rape of an adult family member.  Yep, these are just the kind of people who should be training the "savages" over in Liberia (something I've heard "missionaries" say before...ugh).  Of course, raping one of your own family members probably didn't seem that bad after dad's little talk about calling 911 or burying little bro out in the backyard. 

I'd like to say I'm shocked, but you'd be surprised what gets papered over in "christian" families and churches all over the country!

j.


Silly question
Both parents say they are innocent of the charges, claiming the boy had bruising from undiagnosed reactive detachment disorder...

And has anyone thought to ask why this condition had never been diagnosed?  Any chance the answer would be "because the parents never bothered to report his behavior to anyone or take him to see a mental health professional"?


Dysfunctional "family values"
This is as bad as what Andrea Yates did to her children.

Hyperbole?
No it's not. At least Andrea Yates' children were put out of their misery.

There are 7 other little children in this case that are going to be permanently psychologically scarred by what has already happened to them and what will undoubtedly happen to them in the future in the foster care system.

Come to think of it, this might be worse.


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Publicly Pious
I thing your use of "publicly pious" is the key. it seems the more  "publicly pious" these fundamentalist Christians are the more they are hiding.

You have to wonder if this fundamentalism is not more akin to a delusional disorder than a belief system. A delusional disorder that they use to justify extreme and horrible actions against other humans or groups. It has to be exposed for what it is - madness masquerading as religion.

The problem is religious people have been given so much status in society and have been so untouchable they often not investigated - look at how much the  Catholic priests got away with.


re-enforces it for me
Here lately with all the scandals, sexual abuse, drug abuse and now murder, it grows even more evident christianity is a complete waste of time and energy. 
"publicly pious Christian one-man, one-woman headed family" It appears that hypocrisy is quickly becoming quite fashionable, kind of like pill-box hats in the 50's.  My pill-box hat is greater than yours.

extremists
Recently I thanked my dear Mother again for not raising me in a particularly religious household.  I am much the better for it.  On the other hand, my sister has embraced the structures and "traditional" beliefs of mid-western Christianity (complete as a stay-at-home homemaker).  And, you know what?  It's literally making her crazy.  The delusions that religion taken to the extreme encourages and that society often lets slide are mind-boggling.  I hope these parents spend the rest of their lives in jail.  I hope (but do not expect) that they be condemned by the right.  I absolutely believe, along with the commenter above, that the most ostentatiously pious are the ones who are the most truly evil.

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