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Fundie message to young people of color: thou shalt not master your domain

by: Pam Spaulding

Fri Feb 06, 2009 at 11:00:00 AM EST


Do you remember Joycelyn Elders, the first black U.S. surgeon general, who served during the Clinton administration and stepped into a steaming pile of American Victorianism in regards to sexuality and safer sex? She was given the boot resigned after a brief 15 months:
In 1994, she became a lightning rod for criticism after she said schools should consider teaching masturbation to students as a means to prevent sexually transmitted diseases.

..."If I had to do it all over again today, I would do it the same way," she told CNN in a recent interview. "I felt I did it right the first time. I told someone, 'I went to Washington feeling like prime steak, and I left feeling like low-grade hamburger,' " she said.

...As surgeon general, she advocated universal health care and comprehensive health and sex education, but some of her comments -- such as her remarks about masturbation -- enraged conservatives.

"Our country talked about masturbation more in December of 1994 than they ever have in the history of the country, and you know, people would think you'd be embarrassed about that," Elders told CNN in 1996. "I'm not embarrassed about that."

The 72-year-old Elders would receive just as poor a reception in 2009 from the folks at the Passion for Christ Movement which, along with Dr. Ty @ DaSouth.com, is engaging in a holy war over spanking the monkey, focusing on young people of color.
Yes, I said it, in fact, I'll say it again, MASTURBATION! I figure if a few thousand of the millions here on Myspace can expose their breast, proposition you for sex, have degrading music, and nakedness can have the audacity to request me as a friend , then I can say MASTURBATION and tell the truth about it! And given that many of you are doing it or have, let's talk about it. Since the majority of us have at least a 3rd grade education, I'll begin by defining what it is.

I have heard it said by many, especially by "Christians", that masturbation is not sex and even if you don't have a third grade education, you can clearly see that masturbation is sex. But many like to use that as an excuse to do it so that they can get a little sex without going "all the way". But whether you have sexual intercourse or sexually manipulate your own genitals to achieve an orgasm, you are having sex. The reason why you masturbate is to achieve an orgasm. And an orgasm is the culmination, the climax of any sexual act, whether it's with a partner(s) or sex with yourself. And that's exactly what masturbation is, solo sex.

...Trust me, I've been there, and I'd rather have cold, dry sheets than to fondle my self. Two things I've come to know about masturbation is this:

1. It brings shame, and...
2. It is addictive

Most people who have engaged in masturbation know that the culmination of this sexual act ends in shame. I don't have to share with you the thousands of emails of the admittance of this shame because you know all too well since you have experienced it yourself. Curled up in a fetal position, crying, because your bed is even more empty and you're lonelier than you did before you violated yourself...Because God never created sex so that you could gratify yourself. The dictionary defined masturbation as self abuse...the miss use of yourself. The mistreatment, the manipulation, the exploitation of YOU.

TMI. While this is hysterically bizarre, the sad truth is that, with the unprecedented spread of HIV/AIDS in minority communities, a pious drumbeat to demonize a form of sexual expression that represents safe sex, doesn't involve the possibility of an unintended pregnancy, and no one gives a rip about if done in private is the last thing young POC need to hear.

More below the fold.

Pam Spaulding :: Fundie message to young people of color: thou shalt not master your domain
All I hear in this article's message is that one's body is being defiled, abused and that the act of self-pleasure is a sexual disorder. The article denies that we are sexual beings capable of self-control. One reader called it out.
Honestly
written by Guapo, February 05, 2009

this article is absurd and bordering on the verge of criminal. When we hit a certain age especially in the male biology the urge for sex is one of the largest driving forces in our brains because of every species need to successfully reproduce thus having our genes pass to an other generation. On a biological level this is basically the ultimate goal of life. Obviously in the world we live in, promiscuous sex is not only frowned upon by many theological cultures but a hazard to ones health in the face of many sexually transmitted diseases. So abstinence until marriage is an easy safety measure to prevent the spread of these fatal diseases.

Masturbation is a tool to suppress these urges and is used to help with a variety of mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety. To not just control this impulse, which like any form of pleasure should be controlled, but to completely subjugate our sexual desires is sheer insanity. This article states that the act of masturbation is completely unnatural and we should be ashamed of engaging in it. This shame is not brought about by our own moral spectrum but by the religious fear of angering some omnipotent being who watches and tallies every single transgression against some law that was prophesied by people who lived thousands of years ago. Please whether we admit it or not we are sexual beings and to ignore this fact until the day of your wedding will be harmful to your own personal development as a human being.

Some of the other comments at DaSouth.com are quite revelatory -- you see the gulf and struggle between conservative religious views about sex and reality-based thinking regarding sexual health. If nothing else, this article has stimulated a discussion about a topic that is as much a third rail topic today as it was when Dr. Joycelyn Elders tried to educate the public about the matter.  These folks need to get their heads out of the sand. Dr. Elders, you're needed on the intertubes pronto.

H/t, Jesus' General.

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Dr. Elders is still one of my heroes.


She's a gem
She's one of mine, too.  I wish that she hadn't been pressured to resign, and that Clinton had stood up more for science over the objections of the retrograde religious nuts who hate everything about modernity and progress.

[ Parent ]
One of Clinton's more cowardly actions
Ms. Elders might have actually saved lives, instead we got 8 yrs of IGNORANT abstinence only causing abortions and STDs to INCREASE.

"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


[ Parent ]
and it resulted in abstinence clowns
the world would not have been sullied by Derek Dye and his juggling.

[ Parent ]
You should have included the pitch for the-shirts
From the 'dasouth.com' site:
Purchase the popular P4CM Ex-Masturbator T-Shirt today!
Popular?

With who?

I suspect that the writing staffs at the Daily Show and Saturday Night Live might end up purchasing a few - but not to teach young people yet another way to hate themselves for being sexual beings.

And exactly how many schools might actually allow students to wear them to school?  And how many schools who allow them will end up with a hefty legal bill when they're sued for allowing 'Ex-Masturbator' shirts but not allowing 'Masturbator', 'Relapsed Masturbator', or 'I'm Only an Ex-Masturbator Because I'm Now Getting Laid Regularly' t-shirts?

What morons.

>^..^<


I'm guessing schools will disallow the shirts.
It's usually in dress codes that clothing that talks about sex is prohibited. The "big Johnson" shirts and others like them are usually not allowed, as they are considered disruptive. The country has definitely become more repressive in the past 20 years. When I was in school, the "coed naked lacrosse" shirts were popular and the administration didn't seem to care.  

[ Parent ]
im a teen and i
wouldn't buy one of those in this or any other lifetime. that will drop you down a couple of pegs on the b.s.'ed social scale of life. Seriously though, Who in their correct state of mind would EVER buy some crap like that?

"It's hard to free fools from the chains they revere." ~ François Marie Arouet.

[ Parent ]
You hit the nail on the ol' head
Who in their correct state of mind would EVER buy some crap like that?

"in their correct state of mind" is the key phrase here.  When it comes to fundies, that concept simply doesn't apply.

Cynic, n.  A blackguard whose faulty vision sees things as they are, not as they ought to be.  
-Bierce, The Devil's Dictionary


[ Parent ]
I'd buy one...
...if the money wasn't going to support a nutso Fundie anti-sex campaign. They're funny as shit and would make great gag gifts.

[ Parent ]
Those shirts
Exactly.  I can't imagine any teenager anywhere in the world wearing such a shirt.  I will say, however, that when you put such a shirt on attractive young people -- as has been done in this photograph -- it's really difficult not to imagine them masturbating.  That cannot be the desired effect.

[ Parent ]
Beyond dippy
This brings into clear focus the basic problem with the fundie view of human sexuality (and on a more basic level, with their view of the world in general): Deprivation is good, pleasure is bad.  Period.  Our bodies have no purpose but to make other bodies.  If you derive any pleasure from your own body or anyone else's, you are evil.

This is so obviously counterintuitive, not to say just plain wrong, it's hard to understand how it ever gained any traction at all.  If a speaker were to address any audience anywhere and simply tell them, "You should hate your sexuality--it is bad," he'd be laughed into the nearest nuthouse.  But if the speaker is a "minister" and says, "God hates your sexuality," he automatically gains a measure of credibility.  The sooner this sick belief system crumbles into the dust of history, the better off--and the happier--the human race will be.

Cynic, n.  A blackguard whose faulty vision sees things as they are, not as they ought to be.  
-Bierce, The Devil's Dictionary


Shame is in the eye of the beholder
1. It brings shame, and...
2. It is addictive

It brings "shame"?  How so?  It can only be "shameful" in the eyes of the sexually repressed fundamentalists.  Masturbation is a NORMAL, NATURAL way in which young people explore their sexuality and learn about their bodies.  Masturbation is not unique to homo sapiens (human beings), as there are clear examples of it in other primate species.

It is "addictive"?  Well, no more so than anything else.  The endorphins released in the brain during a serious workout can be addictive too, but no one is suggesting that running or working out is a problem.  Can one masturbate too much?  Sure... but nature has a way of handling that too.  When it is too sore to touch, then you have to stop masturbating!  ;)

I would rather see young adults masturbating than engaging in unsafe sexual intercourse.  I would rather have a young man masturbate to relieve some of his sexual urges rather than raping and assaulting other people.  I would rather see a paedophile masturbate and get release than to prey on a child and scar them for the rest of their life.

Many Christians and Jews point to the story of Onan in the Torah/Old Testament as a religious prohibition on masturbation.  "Spilling seed" and all that.  But in truth, Onan's "crime" was to not impregnate the widow of his brother and instead withdraw from her before ejaculation.  He wasn't masturbating; he was having sexual intercourse!

Discussing masturbation as a part of sex education is a responsible thing to do.  Stop making young people feel guilty about doing something that is NATURAL and that everyone does.  Masturbation is not a "sin".  It is part and parcel of becoming sexually mature and having a healthy appreciation for sex as an adult.


It only inspires guilt
if you've been made to feel guilty about it.

Geeze, these religious idiots are f*cktards!


[ Parent ]
The "addiction" angle is
interesting because clearly the fundies utilize the language and terminology of addiction in in connection with any form of sexuality outside their own prescribed Biblical norms (Ted Haggard used the same language in describing his desires.)

It's a hideous distortion of what addiction actually is.


[ Parent ]
How it Ends
Anyone who consistently ends up crying in the fetal position after jacking off clearly isn't doing it right.  Just sayin'.

"There are two kinds of people in this world -- the kind who separate the world into two kinds of people, and those who don't."  -- Gloria Steinem

[ Parent ]
"Ex-Masturbator"
OMG, this is so bizarre.  Thanks for today's laugh!

Come on, now
Everyone knows that every time you masturbate, a kitten dies.

Stop murdering those kittens.

The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in time of great moral crisis, maintain their neutrality. -- John F. Kennedy (inspired by Dante's Inferno)


But,
pussy cats don't die, no? In fact, they have so much fun that they weep and tremble in joy.

[ Parent ]
But don't cats have nine lives?
So you really only kill one kitten for every NINE times you jack off.

I am the lizard queen!

[ Parent ]
We have a cat
So, I'm afraid to find out.

The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in time of great moral crisis, maintain their neutrality. -- John F. Kennedy (inspired by Dante's Inferno)

[ Parent ]
If it's an adult cat
then you shouldn't have to worry.

I am the lizard queen!

[ Parent ]
She's 19 years old
So, do I risk it? I don't know.

Here's another question for you: Could the action of someone we don't even know and who doesn't even know our kitty exists kill her?

The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in time of great moral crisis, maintain their neutrality. -- John F. Kennedy (inspired by Dante's Inferno)


[ Parent ]
At 19
she's not likely to last much longer anyway. As for your other question, it's kind of a crap shoot. It would really depend on whether the same kitten gets killed nine times in a row, or if a different one gets targeted every time.

I am the lizard queen!

[ Parent ]
Not going to last much longer?
She's going to live to be 40.

The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in time of great moral crisis, maintain their neutrality. -- John F. Kennedy (inspired by Dante's Inferno)

[ Parent ]
The true fundamentalist agends
1. No sex until marriage.

2. No masturbation.

3. If a woman is raped and becomes pregnant, she must have the rapist's baby.

Apparently, the true fundamentalist agenda is to promote fatherhood among rapists.

The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in time of great moral crisis, maintain their neutrality. -- John F. Kennedy (inspired by Dante's Inferno)


They love genital warts, too..
..by their actions. And incest. And they like to make sure child molesters have good access to boy scouts, by keeping out all the honest openly gay men and teens, and making the way open for the 49 out of 50  boy-chesters who identify as straight.

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[ Parent ]
And, don't forget...
They like saddlebacking.

The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in time of great moral crisis, maintain their neutrality. -- John F. Kennedy (inspired by Dante's Inferno)

[ Parent ]
I love Dr. Elders
and after the way Clinton threw her under the bus, I always felt that all that rhetoric abt. him pratically being the 1st blk. president was just that...rhetoric.

This type of backwards view on anything sexual (let alone being gay) has and continues to cost lives and debilitated spirits in the black community.

And the political objective is out there as plain as day.


New Shirt
I want the shirt that says "Part-time Masturbator"   OR

"Part-time Masturbator - Free Lessons"

;)

The truth is out there... (maybe)


?
"Curled up in a fetal position and crying".

I usually just fall asleep soon after. Am I doing it wrong?


Yes.
Afterward, you're supposed to get on your knees and beg forgiveness from the Religious Reich for being human.

[ Parent ]
Well...
I did almost cry after that one time.  It was after I got home from a rather intense dance class and decided to take a considerable amount of time in the self-pleasuring process.

already sore muscles + extremely intense orgasm = every muscle in legs instantly cramping at once = yeee-ouch!


[ Parent ]
OW!
Come to think of it, I have arthritis in my knee and sometimes at the end, when my body tenses up, my knee locks up, accompanied by a horrible shooting pain.

Maybe Jesus is inside my knee punishing me.


[ Parent ]
LOL
For me,

sore lower and tired back muscles from heavy squatting and deadlifting + .... = strained lower back that had me in severe pain for days.


[ Parent ]
Awesome
My other half's response when I sent this to him was: I don't think I've ever masturbated an ex.

I want one to wear to the bars.  


ROFLMAO
An excellent point!  

[ Parent ]
High five to your partner!
Left handed, of course.  ;^)

My America includes LGBT families.

[ Parent ]
Say It Loud!
How about a T-shirt that says "Proud Masturbator"?

for goodness sake
crying, fetal positions

the only times i'm upset regarding masturbation is if i'm interrupted and can't finish.


I so want one of those T-shirts...
What's ironic is that they're trying to promote some stuck-up notion of "decency," yet they do that by having young people walk around with T-shirts with messages about masturbation. I mean, I have to be honest: the idea of the cute guy in the picture playing with himself is kind of a turn-on.


As usual getting the Authoritarians are getting the FACTS WRONG
So, it must have been years and years ago it was considered "self abuse"
masturbate
mæst?rbet/  [mas-ter-beyt]
verb, bated, bating.
-verb (used without object)
1. to engage in masturbation.
-verb (used with object)
2. to practice masturbation upon.
Origin:
1855-60; < L masturb?tus, ptp. of masturb?r? to engage in masturbation
Based on the Random House Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2006.

mas·tur·bate     (m?s't?r-b?t')
v.   mas·tur·bat·ed, mas·tur·bat·ing, mas·tur·bates
v.   intr.
To perform an act of masturbation.
v.   tr.
To perform an act of masturbation on.
[Latin masturb?r?, masturb?t-.]
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition
Copyright © 2006 by Houghton Mifflin Company.
Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

masturbate
verb
1. stimulate sexually; "The old man wanted to be masturbated by the prostitute"
2.get sexual gratification through self-stimulation
WordNet® 3.0, © 2006 by Princeton University.

Main Entry: mas·tur·bate
Pronunciation: 'mas-t&r-"bAt
Function: verb
Inflected Forms: bat·ed;bat·ing
intransitive senses
: to practice masturbation masturbate transitive senses
: to practice masturbation on mas·tur·ba·tor /"bAt-&r/ noun
Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary, © 2002 Merriam-Webster, Inc.
Cite This Source

masturbate mas·tur·bate (m?s't?r-b?t')
v. mas·tur·bat·ed, mas·tur·bat·ing, mas·tur·bates
To perform an act of masturbation.
The American Heritage® Stedman's Medical Dictionary
Copyright © 2002, 2001, 1995 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company.


"They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself." - Andy Warhol



"Men never do evil so completely and cheerfully as when they do it from religious conviction" - Blaise Pascal


As always, it comes back to control
The religious reich doesn't care about the sex: witness how many of their leaders have mistresses, pick up prostitutes and snort meth off the bodies of male "masseurs."

Controlling a person's sex life gives you solid control of the person's mind: witness The Party in Nineteen Eighty Four and its Junior Anti-Sex League. Fundamentalism, Ingsoc, it all boils down to the same thing: force Party members to sublimate their most basic desires, and turn that energy into fanatical loyalty.

Plus ça change, plus c'est la même merde.


Again: oh, bigots, please
If your  goal is to control others through shame, repression, & self-loathing, and those others burst out laughing at your pathetic attempts & refuse to buy into your bullshit, then your own self-loathing & repression is increasingly revealed for the stupidity & cowardice it is...and your attempts to browbeat & control those of us with better things to do become increasingly hysterical & desperate. Why anyone gives coverage to these unhinged asshats is a mystery to me, as is the question of why anyone would follow a deity that seemed to hate all pleasure. The dustbin of history, as noted above, cannot accept this trash soon enough for my taste.
Also, on a purely practical level, how many times a day d'you think a teenager wearing this T-shirt would get beaten up? Just on GP, really.  

What about wet dreams?
Are those a sin, too?

Ooops... Wrong Thread!


[ Parent ]
Do you masturbate?
When asked this question, there are two groups of people,
those who admit it and thse who lie about it.

I'll Take One in a Medium! (Large if they shrink)
I may be forced into getting one of those t-shirts.  My right hand isn't returning my calls anymore and my left hand always has a headache.


Elders STILL rocks!
I still own an "Elders 2000 - I Masturbate and I Vote!" button, and I think Dr. Elders is still thoroughly TOO classy to be mired in drama like this.

Masturbation brings shame?
Hmmm, I've always thought it brought relaxation and sleep.

It always does for me


[ Parent ]
under the bus
After Clinton threw J. Elders "under the bus" I made a poster using my computer saying" Joycelyn Elders (it had her picture) for President" and put it on my car window for a few days.
Hell yes, she's still my heroine !!!
She spoke out when HIV was the big scare; you'd think every parent would've thanked her, but, NO.......
She should be given a medal and a statue on the national mall.

What do you supose the first physical reaction is in a young man's body
when he reads the giant word "MASTURBATOR" printed across his girlfriend's titties?  It isn't prim celibacy, I guarantee you.  Talk about priming the pump.

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The more often a man ejaculates, the less likely he is to get prostate cancer
It's foolish to elevate your risk of prostate cancer to accommodate religious shaming or embarrassment about masturbating.  

I think back of the creepy Jesus Freaks who used to sneak up to me in college
They'd plop themselves down next to you and say,"would ya like to pray with me?"
if one had worn that t-shirt as an ex masturbator, I would have run screaming away when they approached.

"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


Send in the juggling abstinence clown


"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


[ Parent ]
I can't wait to hear....
... that part of the Ex-Masturbation Ministry is to have a confession session with the minister. Yes, where you both talk about it and how bad it was. And how many times a day you did it. And did you strip completely naked? One hand or two? Slow or fast? Alone or with others? Any special techniques? Go ahead, show Pastor what you did... he's only here to help.  

I remember now
That was an episode of Cold Case Files. Only, I think a teacher was the sponsor of the Virginity Club.

The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in time of great moral crisis, maintain their neutrality. -- John F. Kennedy (inspired by Dante's Inferno)

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