Update: I just banned commenters for hijacking this diary about horizontal violence within the trans (and LGBT) community to engage in horizontal violence against each other in the thread for the diary.
Unbelievable -- I'm not even going to try and sort that one out.
~~A~~
Note: Pam and I have considered that this thread may generate many comments. And, that's because the subject matter of this diary includes discussion of Harry Benjamin Syndrome (HBS). If one is going to comment about my opinions regarding HBS expressed in this diary, or opinions expressed later in the discussion thread for this diary, one should read the Pam's House Blend Site Terms And Conditions, and read the additional expounding on what offensive language towards trans people is not acceptable on Pam's House Blend found in the PHB diary Transgender? Transsexual? Trans-Ghettoized?
Commenters on this thread are certainly allowed to disagree my opinions as expressed in this in this diary without being disagreeable; without violating the PHB Site Terms And Conditions. If individual commenters won't follow the commenting policies on PHB, and use widely offensive language directed against trans people to make points; however, then Pam, my peer baristas, and I will be aggressively enforcing the site policies regarding widely offensive language towards these individual commenters who can't "stay between the lines" of appropriate language.
Right after I highlighted Dan Caleb's comment on my Light A Candle For Angie Facebook photo -- the one where he said I that I looked like an ugly man -- an ugly woman came out of my past.
And no, I don't mean a woman who is ugly on the outside, but one who is ugly on the inside. This woman has identified herself as having Harry Benjamin Syndrome (HBS), as being a "woman of transsexual history." Below is her letter to me, that I received during the Angie Zapata trial (emphasis added):
You don't look alike a woman at all.
You and most of those you guys who hanb [sic] out in the gay ghetto look like men.
I could sight example after example.
You are not a woman you are a man with a fetish.
quoting you;
"Dan trollishly questions my gender identity by calling me ugly; telling me I look like a man trying to be a woman. So I'm not "deceptive": Instead, I'm just ugly."
The truth is you walk, talk, and behave like a man with breasts.
Get voice lesions and learn how to walk and talk like a woman.
I have been to Greeley CO. people ther saw me as nothing more than a middle age woman. You have never applied for a job as a woman like many of us have. you live in a protected environment where politically corerct [sic] language is the only fair allowed.
Angie and Gwen are human beings who chose to deceive the man they chose to have intimate company with.
that was totally stupid on their part and you know it.
Your just using this incident to put Autumn in the spotlight, to get attention at their expense.
You are the ultimate parasite feeding on false ideals false claims and a misplaced sense of truth.
Thankfully the only thing you can do to me is post a photo shopped picture from someone who should have never transitioned who has seething jealousy toward me.
Go ahead make my day,
You people are an embarrassment to those of us who are real.
Grow up and get a real life.
I'm not going to identify the woman who sent this to me -- or show any photos of what she looks like -- because what her name is, and what her physical appearance is, aren't the points of this piece. The horizontal violence she expresses as a woman of transsexual history towards me as a publicly pre-operative transsexual, and a publicly transgender identified person; however, is the point.
[Below the fold, a significant voice within the trans community talks about having once embraced HBS, but having a problem with those who support it now because of bigoted, anti-trans and anti-LGBT attitudes expressed by many, if not most, of those who embrace Harry Benjamin Syndrome.
Also below the fold, how horizontal violence is also found within the broader LGBT community, and is something we who care about human rights should care about.]
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